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· 5 years ago
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All those things can certainly be advantages when it comes to seeking people of the opposite sex- but.... they aren’t needed. In fact- especially for younger folks. If you and they are just looking to hook up- sure. It’s about short term fun. Money and cars and looks are some go to ways to have fun. But- so are a sense of humor, the ability to converse, being interesting or otherwise just knowing how to show someone a fun time.
guest_
· 5 years ago
For an actual relationship these things can matter even less. Sure, a minority of young people are born into money or otherwise get an early start and have all sorts of things. But... any realistic person knows these are exceptions not rules. Most intelligent people won’t care as much about where you are (especially when young,) as they will care where you are on track to go.
guest_
· 5 years ago
Many athletes and politicians and lawyers and entrepreneurs met their significant others before they made it “big” and have stories of sticking together through hard times. A law student may work a low end job to get through school, have an old bucket or no car at all, and have little money. But- if they are dedicated, talented, ambitious- it is a safe bet that in 4-10 years they will likely be dpi very well for themselves.
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guest_
· 5 years ago
Most people looking for a relationship aren’t looking for riches- they just want to know that they’ll have some level of stability and comfort. Most people are aware circumstances change- your attitude and how you approach life and what you are doing in life show not just a bit of who you are, but the trajectory you are on in life.
guest_
· 5 years ago
Some people care little or nothing at all about security or money. Someone like a DJ or artist or activist may have little to their name and it would be a long shot to think they’d ever make it big- but they have passion and conviction and stand for something. For some people- THAT is truly important.
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guest_
· 5 years ago
If you want to have luck in relationships- cliche but true- be you. Well- the best version of you. Embrace your passions, seek the place your talents of skills can be best used- be on a mission to improve yourself or the world. Help people, create, participate. Be somebody.
guest_
· 5 years ago
So many great people I’ve known have had so little luck in love because they just... were lazy. The odds of finding a swimsuit model who’s turn ons include wearing the same outfit for 5 days, messy homes, infrequent showers or grooming, staying home or doing what you want every night always, and sleeping on a futon or floor mattress for the rest of their lives with 3 roommates... let alone the odds of them walking through your living room randomly are... very slim.
guest_
· 5 years ago
The internet can help us meet compatible people sure- but there are challenges there like geography and expenses to see each other or move and so forth. Your best odds of finding an attractive and compatible person near you are to do the things you love and meet a person while doing them.
guest_
· 5 years ago
Of all the people they could date- you need something unique, a combination of things that make you- you, to help them choose you from the crowd. Most people won’t mind (especially if you’re young) that you don’t have a car or lots of money or your own place- but they won’t likely be ok with that forever. So you also need some type of a plan on how to get those things you want but don’t have.
guest_
· 5 years ago
In fact- even with the money or power or whatever else- it’s almost never REALLY about that. It’s what those things represent. They represent a person who knows what they want and knows how; and is willing: to do the work to get what they want in life. So if your values are more about art or doing good or whatever- and you find someone else who shares or respects those things- they’ll judge you more on your ability to do those things- but most people want more than to live in a box- so yeah. They might like to know that you have a place, or are working to be able to someday.
