Difference btw pro,pro+ and elite!
5 years ago by hanksduo · 1169 Likes · 10 comments · Popular
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· 5 years ago
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To quote a great philosopher of the 20th century: “Homie don’t play that.” It is my opinion that expecting things to be different in marriage is a set up for failure. People don’t magically change when a ring slips on their finger. “Magical transformations” like New Years resolutions rarely come true, and when they do seldom last. People are who they are. You CAN make amazing changes but few people WILL. So if you aren’t already getting something- don’t expect to get it in marriage, or if you do don’t expect it to outlast the honeymoon phase unless it’s a lifestyle change a person is truly dedicated to.
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married_dude
· 5 years ago
I get what you are saying, and in a general sense I agree with it. However, this guy is making a request that the girl is not comfortable fulfilling at this stage of the relationship. It is not that she is opposed to copying the picture at all, she just is not there yet.
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guest_
· 5 years ago
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with her not doing this. That’s ok. It’s ok if she never feels comfortable doing it. Her body- her choice. I’m just saying that if you think a person is going to suddenly start doing things differently in marriage... you’re probably wrong. There is a difference between “not comfortable with..” and “withholding.” Not comfortable with is- “We haven’t been dating long enough...” “I don’t feel that level of connection with them...” etc etc. withholding is: “You did/didn’t do this. I won’t do this until you do/stop that.” That’s not comfort- that’s bartering.
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guest_
· 5 years ago
“Give me jewelry” or “sign a contract” “and I will perform a sexual act/strip/etc.” isn’t: “I am not comfortable with this act...” it’s... “we are bartering.” If you go in to a marriage on the barter system- expect your marriage to function on the barter system. If we are withholding things from our partner that we WOULD do but WONT do unless they give us something in return- then you’ll need leverage going forward. If she wants to get married and will barter for marriage- once you are married what do you have to barter with? What is your recourse if she does not uphold her word?
guest_
· 5 years ago
There are people who do things to make their partners happy (while hopefully respecting their own boundaries and needs-) and people who do things for their partners on a basis of direct exchange. If you’re already at a comfort level to get married- what changes the next day with the ring- other than legal and religious context where that applies? Not much. So I guess I didn’t think of religious hang ups because I have no use for them.
guest_
· 5 years ago
So I apologize for that and concede that *if they are declining for religious or cultural reasons then perhaps they might change suddenly after marriage as those institutions dictate. That is up to an individual to decide and I’m not here to bad mouth cultures or religions with such traditions- speaking only for me I want to know what I’m signing up for when I say “till death do us part” and am not looking to wake up next to a whole new person from the one I’ve been dealing with.
guest
· 5 years ago
Hey guys, it's just a joke
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penguincat
· 5 years ago
*hey guest_, it's just a joke
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guest_
· 5 years ago
Oh. I didn’t realize. Thank you.
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guest_
· 5 years ago
*that was sarcasm.
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