Tell me why

So this is how ignorance works if we do not better ourselves. The hitch is it takes bravery and sacrifice to do so.

In a society where “men don’t cry” or where doing so runs the risk of being labeled somehow in a negative light or having false assumptions made of ones self- the only way to change peoples minds is to be brave enough and strong enough to lead the way and be among the first, the early social adopters who suffer indignities and adversity to bring about the changes they want to see.

Before this next bit I must say- I am not 1:1 comparing these two things- I am saying that for many people- especially those without empathy for the struggles of others and who have not nor would face certain struggles in life by virtue of birth: think of those who have fought and continue to fight for civil rights.

Being called “gay” (which isn’t an actual insult and there is nothing wrong with being gay anyway...) or thought of as a “sissy” for asserting your basic human rights to express your emotions in healthy and natural ways- to not be forced to conform to imposed expectations of society- is a very weak comparison to being beaten, lynched, fired. To having hundreds of thousands of strangers trash you and send you nasty letters and death threats. The indignity of having your crush turn you down for being “too girly” doesn’t stand against having your wife raped or assaulted and being able to do nothing but stand by and watch or get killed or jailed.

But the sentiment that many may feel as men who think it is unfair or wrong that society treat them poorly for demanding they not express their emotions- can at least relate that feeling in the tiniest sliver of empathy for how those groups must feel, the frustration and insult and unfairness and fear etc felt by others seeking their own social justice and often facing much harsher retribution for being Trail Blazers than having someone call them “gay” and laughing.

So men who want to cry and be vulnerable- feel secure even when called unmanly that perhaps one of the most noble virtues are courage, living ones truth, and self sacrifice for others and the future. Have the bravery and strength of character to be the you that you want to be. Be the change you want to see. Sadly, even when for the better, changing the world has consequences and costs. People don’t generally like change or abide it well. You will be celebrated by some, but more will likely stand against. Be strong. If doing what was right was easy, we’d all be saints. Almost every person fighting for social change has faced insult and injury or threat of. Welcome to the struggle. Don’t forget all your fellow humans fighting battles too and help out where you can. Help get their change and lets hope they do the same.

This is very inspiring. Thank you.

Thank you as well.