@xvarnah felt fitting to respond on this one. Was trying to find the original message you sent me a long time ago but couldn't find it. I wanted to tell you thanks for checking in on me. It was really thoughtful and I'm glad you did. Life has been a tad bit rough recently. I'm glad to call you a friend :) on another note I love birbs
Just trying to get my life in order. Its difficult when you have a spouse that wants to battle all the time. My children have started picking up on her combat styles and are replicating.
That sounds horrible tbh. I know you said you wanted to stay together for the kids, but if she's going to expose them to this kind of toxicity is that still the best move? Especially if it means you're miserable as well? :/
Honestly it's hard to say because there are areas where growth is happening but then other areas are horrible.i don't mind fighting when it's something that benefits everybody but its really hard when you can't hold your partner accountable for stuff.
That sounds truly awful tbh :/
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Is she aware she's doing it? Is she even willing to acknowledge how stressful it's making it and the negative impact it's having?
She's willing to acknowledge it but she doesn't want to do anything to change it. Unfortunately can't change her and she's answering difficult questions that I have to ask myself. I hope all is well with you little birb :). How's your life going?
So she just wants to actively keep the kids and you in that kind of a hostile environment? That doesn't seem healthy
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Difficult questions?
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Eh a bit rough right now but getting through it haha. Thanks for asking :)
Its crazy how we all have our battles going on in life. I'm Robert BTW, I've known you for a long time but never asked names because...online stuff is weird lolol
And I think the hostility is unintentional but I've expressed it many times. It's becoming an issue and our children pick up how we act and imitate it.
You never know what's going on in someone else's story that's for sure haha.
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I tend not to give out my name online I'm afraid, but it's nice to "meet" you :P
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Yes, children tend to be little sponges, which is a fairly big problem. If she wants to make it work she should be trying to contain the hostility for their sake if nothing else
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I can't remember if you said if you guys have tried therapy?
I understand, I wasn't asking you to share your name. My children are highly intelligent and like to critically think.
My story is an interesting one, I'm not the person I used to be thats for certain. Yes ma'am, we're currently seeing a counselor but honestly one can only change if one wants to change.
Hostility is a major foundation of their family but...she's her own person and can make her own choices but oftentimes people fall into what's comfortable and what they know/used to.
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You okay, man?
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Is she aware she's doing it? Is she even willing to acknowledge how stressful it's making it and the negative impact it's having?
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Difficult questions?
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Eh a bit rough right now but getting through it haha. Thanks for asking :)
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I tend not to give out my name online I'm afraid, but it's nice to "meet" you :P
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Yes, children tend to be little sponges, which is a fairly big problem. If she wants to make it work she should be trying to contain the hostility for their sake if nothing else
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I can't remember if you said if you guys have tried therapy?
My story is an interesting one, I'm not the person I used to be thats for certain. Yes ma'am, we're currently seeing a counselor but honestly one can only change if one wants to change.
Hostility is a major foundation of their family but...she's her own person and can make her own choices but oftentimes people fall into what's comfortable and what they know/used to.