In reference to the title, any mother who is in the habit of just barging in their son's room unannounced is not likely to respond to a request for privacy.
I think your point has validity- but I also think the title is probably generally still correct.
Some parents just do have that mindset that “it’s my house so I don’t have to knock” or “privacy is something for ‘grown ups’,” or they’re just plain nosey, disrespectful, etc. They may not listen.
However many times parents are just… thoughtless or oblivious in such matters. Maybe that’s just how it was when they grew up, or maybe their child it at an age where that parent hasn’t yet realized “privacy” is a concept with their child (it’s debatable WHEN to start asking a child’s permission to enter a room- but there are points in a child’s life where they can’t even communicate well enough to have that exchange etc.)
That said- the parent may not be malicious in intent or deliberate.
We can certainly say giving a child an environment of safety and respect and teaching them consent and manners etc. through things like respecting their space and asking permission to enter have….
… value. However maturity isn’t something conferred by parents. A child raised “perfectly” can lack it and a child raised “terribly” can posses it. By the same token asking privacy is a form of respect and a way to prepare children for adulthood, using your words is important for the child.
As an adult such extreme measures are rarely the most prudent action, especially as a “first step” to solving a problem.
As we grow up we may sometimes have to show our parents we are growing up to “remind them” we aren’t the little kid they knew for 10,15+ years. We may have to even oppose them or start to push back with our own wills and thoughts. Being able to speak your mind and state your “case” to your parents is itself an important life skill and part of becoming an adult. And they may not listen or agree. There is value simply in doing it though, in learning to negotiate with people who hold power over you or to navigate disputes with people- even people who don’t listen. They exist in…
.. the world too. Not everyone has parents who will or are capable of having constructive discussions with children or who won’t consider any form of such talk “back talk” etc. It isn’t a “magic bullet” for carefree and healthy parent child relationships since how our parents behave is half the equation basically, and we can’t control that. We do control ourselves though. I won’t say that this naked trick” is completely invalid in all circumstances or as a “last resort,” but at the least it really shouldn’t be anything but a last resort where all options are exhausted. It is ideal when people consider us intuitively but when they don’t we have to ask for what we need and know how to ask without going straight to the “nuclear option.” Well- or not. It’s each persons life, but most people will find more success if they don’t need to come to work without showering to deal with a coworker who gets too close or other such examples and can gracefully discuss such matters like an adult.
Some parents just do have that mindset that “it’s my house so I don’t have to knock” or “privacy is something for ‘grown ups’,” or they’re just plain nosey, disrespectful, etc. They may not listen.
However many times parents are just… thoughtless or oblivious in such matters. Maybe that’s just how it was when they grew up, or maybe their child it at an age where that parent hasn’t yet realized “privacy” is a concept with their child (it’s debatable WHEN to start asking a child’s permission to enter a room- but there are points in a child’s life where they can’t even communicate well enough to have that exchange etc.)
That said- the parent may not be malicious in intent or deliberate.
We can certainly say giving a child an environment of safety and respect and teaching them consent and manners etc. through things like respecting their space and asking permission to enter have….
As an adult such extreme measures are rarely the most prudent action, especially as a “first step” to solving a problem.
As we grow up we may sometimes have to show our parents we are growing up to “remind them” we aren’t the little kid they knew for 10,15+ years. We may have to even oppose them or start to push back with our own wills and thoughts. Being able to speak your mind and state your “case” to your parents is itself an important life skill and part of becoming an adult. And they may not listen or agree. There is value simply in doing it though, in learning to negotiate with people who hold power over you or to navigate disputes with people- even people who don’t listen. They exist in…