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· 2 years ago
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It’s nuanced right? I mean- if your room mate/live in partner is leaving festering food around or your living room looks like a garbage dump that’s going to be pretty clear they need to clean up after themselves- but most people don’t want to live with somewhere where they can’t set their keys or their jacket or their laundry or whatever down for a little bit if they are running to do something else or what not and it will be gone later. So if my partner isn’t a slob and she leaves her jacket on the couch or her sock somewhere- I’m going to figure that’s probably her business. If I move it and she knew where it was or left it there with intent- maybe she’s looking later and is like: “where’s my sock? I knew it was here…” If it’s there maybe some hours later or the next day then I might ask about it like “did you lose this doing laundry?” Etc- and if it happens a few times or is still there for days then maybe we talk a little bit about our expectations for the house and where things go
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wolfballoonsquad
· 2 years ago
Yeah I can see that
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wolfballoonsquad
· 2 years ago
Tbh I dislike passive aggressive moves like this, instead of conducting a science experiment, just communicate to your partner about maintaining a tidy house, because I know full well the sock leaver has things they tend to leave that the other doesn't like as well.
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guest_
· 2 years ago
Lol. Yeah. I’d say it’s seldom the case that all parties are perfect housemates all the time. I would agree I don’t care for passive aggression and also favor direct communication. That said if it isn’t fuel or “evidence” for some hostile action or resentment- if it’s more a light hearted prank like- everyone can have a laugh at how oblivious they were- I think that’s ok. What I mean is that it is hard to articulate but we can “tease” or “prank” people we care about in ways that everyone laughs and it’s a sort of light fun moment. Then there is of course a mean spirited or abusive way that the person recieving doesn’t laugh, and then there is the hostile way in which no one laughs and one is simply instigating or preparing confrontation. “Fun shit talking” vs “someone is gonna cry or things are about to get hot in here shit talking” I guess.
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