Lol. That was awesome. I don’t have a problem and have never had a problem giving my partner money for things like her manicures and pedicures, salon, spa, etc. for one thing it is just nice when someone you care about treats you to something, and most of my partners have enjoyed things like having their nails or hair done. I don’t see it as different than buying someone a meal or any other activity they enjoy.
Secondly, I benefit from it. I enjoy my partners well groomed nails, beautiful hair, etc. I’ve had partners who have bought me electric shavers or take me for pedicures or various creams or products. It isn’t so odd that we might enjoy a well groomed partner and it isn’t so odd that as humans we often take joy in being well groomed. So a grooming gift CAN be something nice for both partners so long as it is respectful and something the person likes or wants and not some attempt to change them etc.
Thirdly, grooming, appearance, massages, spas, meditation or various classes and groups, hair, nails, etc. can all fall into a general health and wellness grouping. I certainly want my partner to feel happy and relaxed, that’s a worthwhile gift. When it comes to a committed relationship, it is common for partners to share finances, so if one reaches that point where the money is shared you are both essentially paying for anything the other buys anyway. If one partner is working outside the home for a wage and the other is tending the home and or family for the couple, the couple making the wages is paying everything anyway too- so it isn’t absurd to me for a partner to pay for things like nails or hair etc. for the other, I don’t think it is the defacto way things should be in every relationship, but it’s nice and when it comes to it, I don’t mind paying to support things I enjoy.
Secondly, I benefit from it. I enjoy my partners well groomed nails, beautiful hair, etc. I’ve had partners who have bought me electric shavers or take me for pedicures or various creams or products. It isn’t so odd that we might enjoy a well groomed partner and it isn’t so odd that as humans we often take joy in being well groomed. So a grooming gift CAN be something nice for both partners so long as it is respectful and something the person likes or wants and not some attempt to change them etc.