There are a lot of things men don't share with acquaintances and coworkers. They might share those things with friends or someone who has experience that could help, but keep personal details just between true friends who are concerned, and not everybody who is merely curious.
One other aspect: If a guy shares some vulnerability or embarrassment with his GF or wife, and it gets brought up as ammunition in a future argument, he's going to (eventually) learn his lesson.
Yeah, we don't want to emote all over people because we don't really like being emoted all over ourselves.
Our problems are our own and we want to deal with them ourselves if we can, and if going on a camping trip or a cocaine bender is what does the trick, then so be it.
You don't get to know all the details of my life just because you think talking about shit is good/healthy/whatever.
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So you won't tell a therapist, unless they are your very best buddy, right? Opening up to a total stranger is exactly as beneficial to your mental (and thus physical!) health as waiting for that "one good friend" to let it all out. I wonder how deep the cut must go for you to call it important enough to bother someone. Because opening up to someone - anyone - means acceptance of something bad happening to you, out of your control, which is the first step of healing. What you two are describing is textbook toxic masculinity. Poor buggers. Enjoy your intestinal cancer you'rfe so busy working on getting.
-"So you won't tell a therapist, unless they are your very best buddy"
I would likely never tell a friend I had who was a therapist, and any therapist friend I had would know that. That said, none of my friends are therapists, so who knows.
-"Opening up to a total stranger is ... beneficial to your mental (and thus physical!) health"
Don't care, not gonna. Go fuck yourself.
-"opening up to someone - anyone - means acceptance of something bad happening to you, out of your control"
What retardation suggests that I have to talk to someone to accept something happened? When is that ever the case? I took a shit a few hours ago and didn't tell anyone about it, yet somehow I can accept that it happened.
-"What you two are describing is textbook toxic masculinity."
I have zero interest in whatever woke nu-speak you label it as, that's one of the least effective ways to change my mind on anything.
Our problems are our own and we want to deal with them ourselves if we can, and if going on a camping trip or a cocaine bender is what does the trick, then so be it.
You don't get to know all the details of my life just because you think talking about shit is good/healthy/whatever.
I would likely never tell a friend I had who was a therapist, and any therapist friend I had would know that. That said, none of my friends are therapists, so who knows.
-"Opening up to a total stranger is ... beneficial to your mental (and thus physical!) health"
Don't care, not gonna. Go fuck yourself.
-"opening up to someone - anyone - means acceptance of something bad happening to you, out of your control"
What retardation suggests that I have to talk to someone to accept something happened? When is that ever the case? I took a shit a few hours ago and didn't tell anyone about it, yet somehow I can accept that it happened.
-"What you two are describing is textbook toxic masculinity."
I have zero interest in whatever woke nu-speak you label it as, that's one of the least effective ways to change my mind on anything.