Perhaps, but in classic child logic which many adults sadly never move on from-
Your father may have reached a point of wisdom and maturity to realize that he did some “loser” things. It’s quite a silly argument- the teenager calling their parent a hypocrite for telling their child not to drink or do drugs when they did, or to do well in school when they didn’t or so forth. Trends and fads change, technology and society change, but so much about humita does not. A modern fad is not so different than one through history. Pressures for social acceptance, hormonal changes in adolescence- your parents probably have a picture with a stupid haircut in a stupid outfit that you think is stupid and so do they- but when the photo was taken- they thought it was cool.
They probably did a lot of things that they regret or would have done differently with perspective and wisdom. Probably a lot of things that they once were upset or rebellious about from their elders but one day understood.
So here is the duality- just because your parent did something risky and it bit them doesn’t mean you’ll meet the same fate. Maybe they drank too much at a party and something bad happened and they don’t want you to drink- but maybe you can control your drinking better, have more trustworthy friends who look out for you etc?
By the same token just because tikes have changed and you aren’t them doesn’t mean that prudent isn’t prudent.
To the flip side of course older people make mistakes or can be wrong. Sometimes older people pass their regrets or unfulfilled wishes on to younger people wether they want them or not. They try to get you to make the decision they wish they made not because they believe it is best for you but because they believe that the outcome will suit THEM better. Sometimes things do change- maybe the long hair or tattoo that they are certain will prevent you from getting a job isn’t a big deal in the world today or might even HELP you fit in where you want to be and will prosper.
So by no means am I saying people should blindly follow their elders advice, but it is generally best to have some respect about it and the whole “you did this” thing doesn’t really work. I mean- isn’t that a major comeback we talked about for younger people? To tell their parents “things were different in your time, you don’t know how it is today..” well yeah. Sometimes- but things being different now also means they were different than dingus. So what you could do or what might be ok maybe isn’t the same as what was ok for them, that’s sort of the inherent logical course of that very argument. Again- inherently as much as your parents may not understand the world you live in, you not only do not have the ability to understand the world they came from- but they’ve been your age and you haven’t been theirs. They lived in the last and today but you didn’t live back then did you?
Your father may have reached a point of wisdom and maturity to realize that he did some “loser” things. It’s quite a silly argument- the teenager calling their parent a hypocrite for telling their child not to drink or do drugs when they did, or to do well in school when they didn’t or so forth. Trends and fads change, technology and society change, but so much about humita does not. A modern fad is not so different than one through history. Pressures for social acceptance, hormonal changes in adolescence- your parents probably have a picture with a stupid haircut in a stupid outfit that you think is stupid and so do they- but when the photo was taken- they thought it was cool.
So here is the duality- just because your parent did something risky and it bit them doesn’t mean you’ll meet the same fate. Maybe they drank too much at a party and something bad happened and they don’t want you to drink- but maybe you can control your drinking better, have more trustworthy friends who look out for you etc?
By the same token just because tikes have changed and you aren’t them doesn’t mean that prudent isn’t prudent.