Happier now because you've moved past your history, or because you're able to trust? Do you ever really get over it completely?
EDIT: Sorry about the questions, I'm just curious. You don't have to answer if you're uncomfortable
I guess happier because of both. I was sexually abused by my dad when I was a child and then by my ex a few years ago. I'm happier because I found someone that I can trust completely and I know he'll never hurt me. I don't think I'll ever fully get over it. I have flashbacks every now and then. I sometimes get this horrible feeling wash over me for no reason at any moment. I think it happens when I'm anxious and those old feelings resurface. Im able to live a normal life and I've moved past those events. But I don't think I'll ever fully get over it. It's a part of my past and now a part of me. It's made me stronger and in a crazy way, I'm kinda grateful for it. It's changed me and my whole perspective. It's made me stronger and a better person. I wish it had never happened but I'm glad that I could come away from it learning something.
Thank you so much for your reply, it's incredibly reassuring and inspiring :)
I was sexually abused by my uncle until I was 12. Four years later, I'm still coping with trust issues. I wanted to know if gets easier, and it seems as though it does. I'm glad you've gained strength from your experiences (what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right?), and I really admire your positive outlook.
I feel so hopeful right now :)
It's never easy getting over something like this. I don't think I could've done it without help though. I know that no one truly understands what it's like unless it's happened to them but it helps to talk. My fiancé Wes really helped me through it. It's a constant battle with yourself. Feeling like it's your fault, or that it's broken you and you won't be able to overcome it. An experience like this really tests who you are. But I'm hopeful that you can get through it like I did.
I feel for both of you. Alwaysreva and snopes, it's probably worse you got attacked by family. Those are the people you should automatically be able to trust
"I posted hers but never yours. I never wanted to hurt you...just to see you"
Not physical rape, but this is why I'm so messed up. I don't know if there's a correct term but I say "cyber rape" where you're forced to send stuff of yourself because you're too scared to tell someone about it...
As Tara said, it's when you're forced to send nudes of your self, some times worse, over the Internet. It may sound as though it's being done voluntarily, but what usually happens is these creeps get the girls to expose them selves over camera once, screen shot it, then use that to black mail them with the threat of that ending up on a pornography site.
I don't know exactly what happened to Tara in this case, but that is what, from my knowledge, Cyber Rape is.
That's pretty much it. I don't even know who it was, although I have a pretty good hunch with solid evidence. I was so scared. I have no idea why I never told people(my friends knew though) I could have avoided the whole situation
"Why don't you lay on the bed with me? Just for a moment"
after I kept saying no too. You think you can trust a friend and then they betray your trust forever.
Something like that happened to a friend of mine.
Lord, I never realized how many of you on here have been through this awfulness. I'm sorry to all of you, no one deserves such a thing.
It's sad to say, but I think it happens more often than you think. The reason why you never hear about it is because a lot of girls are too scared to tell anyone. I was still in high school when it happened and didn't think something like that would happen to me. I was just scared and confused, didn't know what to do in the situation. I just really regret not telling anyone sooner, I don't know if it even would of changed anything but it messed me up keeping it all inside.
I feel the virtual love. I'm okay, though. I've got good people around. A male companion that knows my boundaries, and I don't ever have to see that bastard again.
To all the girls that went through this, you don't deserve to have so much pain. It's just wrong and they should be severely punished like in the old days where their dicks got smashed by rocks and left to bleed! Raping or any sexual assault or harrasment is wrong and they all deserve twice as much pain as you got coz it's fucking wrong! I'm pissed, I'm sorry
No, what you do is take some wire wrap around their equipment is circles, and pull it tight. It cuts off the blood flow and causes bits to fall off at a time, but they don't die and they end up an eunuch!
I saw a clip in a movie where a girl (she's a nurse) found her rapist, tied him to a coroners table, put packs of ice on his package until it was all numb then castrated him while he watched.
What's with the rape posts on funsubstance? I mean I'm sorry what happened to you, but are you sure this is the right forum to discuss this? It looks way out of place next to elephants on trampolines.
Looky here, this may be a humour site, but every now and then we need a wake up call to reality. You clearly haven't been on here too long if you're not used to feels posts yet.
To the guest, if us talking about these issues helps even one person to heal then talk is what we will do. Everyone here might not have anyone they can confide in, when it happened to me I told no one and I wish I had my funsubstance friends then because I would've healed faster. If you don't agree then don't read it. Alwaysreva is right, we are a family here!
Good for you guest. I hope you never have to go through with what these women went through. I can't imagine the horrible Trauma that comes with something like that.
To the guest: as it's been stated, not the place to say that. That's a lot like walking into a cancer ward and sayin, "i've never been sick in my life". People will be happy that you don't have to go through that pain, but you don't know what they're feeling, so it's kinda rude to say that
EDIT: Sorry about the questions, I'm just curious. You don't have to answer if you're uncomfortable
I was sexually abused by my uncle until I was 12. Four years later, I'm still coping with trust issues. I wanted to know if gets easier, and it seems as though it does. I'm glad you've gained strength from your experiences (what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right?), and I really admire your positive outlook.
I feel so hopeful right now :)
Not physical rape, but this is why I'm so messed up. I don't know if there's a correct term but I say "cyber rape" where you're forced to send stuff of yourself because you're too scared to tell someone about it...
I don't know exactly what happened to Tara in this case, but that is what, from my knowledge, Cyber Rape is.
after I kept saying no too. You think you can trust a friend and then they betray your trust forever.
Lord, I never realized how many of you on here have been through this awfulness. I'm sorry to all of you, no one deserves such a thing.
I am so sorry.
"I can do so much more than give you a check up."
-my doctor. I was 14