SHAZAM 43 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
@bethorien please calm down. Yes, people downvote things for bad reasons. Yes, it has always been that way. But most of this community is made of users who want to see good on the site. Please remember that. When you get angry you sometimes get hostile in a way that makes other who haven't done anything wrong upset
B*tch this is a cob 8 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
I think that either buns or rolls is acceptable for the bread photographed. We always refer to the hot dog buns and buns, but I suppose if you called it a hot dog roll I would know what you meant.
But yeah, its definitely not a MUFFIN.
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But yeah, its definitely not a MUFFIN.
SHAZAM 43 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
I definitely wouldn't have posted about it, but I also don't see a problem with posting a out it in and of itself. I think the problem is her post implies it is wrong to ask for a women's number and it really isn't. She might now give it to you, and it would be wrong to act as though you are entitled to it, but it isn't wrong to ask. He shouldn't have asked on the clock, but that's not the same issue.
Honestly, I think it would be fine to post a bit this (differently) as a means of expressing "this happened and I felt uncomfortable " Fro example. "I smiled at a TSA agent today a d he asked for my number. It was immediately uncomfortable as he is in a position of authority and I felt this could be threatening. #PleaseDon't hit on women while in uniform."
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Honestly, I think it would be fine to post a bit this (differently) as a means of expressing "this happened and I felt uncomfortable " Fro example. "I smiled at a TSA agent today a d he asked for my number. It was immediately uncomfortable as he is in a position of authority and I felt this could be threatening. #PleaseDon't hit on women while in uniform."
lore 22 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
Easy: Pokémon are only found in Caves and Tall grasses. Both are easy to avoid.
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SHAZAM 43 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
It clearly is. @gloriouslypurposed has been all over this post being seriously extreme to side of women being the victims.
And, the point here is fair. Women often don't feel it is safe to say no in circumstances like this because that has in fact ended poorly. That's why the fake numbers are a good idea. Is it a dick move to give someone a number that will play the John cena thing at them, maybe. But it's a better option than pissing off a stranger in a dark bar. And yeah, it's a TSA agent who definitely has the power to strip search you behind closed doors so, I get why you might be afraid to say no. But this would be a different post if it read
"I smiled at a TSA agent today and he asked for my number. I didn't want to give out my number, but I was also afraid to say "no". I did politely tell him no, and nothing came of it. #thankgodthisonewasn'tabadguy"
I get that you have a character limit, but there are still options.
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And, the point here is fair. Women often don't feel it is safe to say no in circumstances like this because that has in fact ended poorly. That's why the fake numbers are a good idea. Is it a dick move to give someone a number that will play the John cena thing at them, maybe. But it's a better option than pissing off a stranger in a dark bar. And yeah, it's a TSA agent who definitely has the power to strip search you behind closed doors so, I get why you might be afraid to say no. But this would be a different post if it read
"I smiled at a TSA agent today and he asked for my number. I didn't want to give out my number, but I was also afraid to say "no". I did politely tell him no, and nothing came of it. #thankgodthisonewasn'tabadguy"
I get that you have a character limit, but there are still options.
SHAZAM 43 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
Because men are more likely to attack women. However, when a woman attacks a man it is more likely to be fatal.
It's like how you are more likely to die in a car crash (because there are many of them) however a plane crash is more likely to be fatal (less people survive the average plane crash per passengers than people who survive the average car crash per passengers).
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It's like how you are more likely to die in a car crash (because there are many of them) however a plane crash is more likely to be fatal (less people survive the average plane crash per passengers than people who survive the average car crash per passengers).
SHAZAM 43 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
@bethorien that is true. Which again, is why all harassment should be taken seriously.
SHAZAM 43 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
@bethorien I think this may be true to some extent, but I don't think its universally true. I think some people still use email correspondence, and I don't see a problem with that. Almost everyone has an email address, and you can easily get emails to your phone for convenience.
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SHAZAM 43 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
@celticrose If a man asked for your number, politely, would you be willing to give him your email? Because I 100% understand not wanting to give out your number, but I also would never ask for an email as I rarely communicate in this fashion and I am certain I am not alone in this.
Personally, I think social platforms which allow people to be blocked would be a good way to get to know each other. But also, I would probably just go on a coffee date someplace public and go from there. That's me though, and I get why this is not always the best option for everyone.
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Personally, I think social platforms which allow people to be blocked would be a good way to get to know each other. But also, I would probably just go on a coffee date someplace public and go from there. That's me though, and I get why this is not always the best option for everyone.
SHAZAM 43 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
I agree that it's unfair to suggest than men aren't harrassed, because they 100% are and that is definitely not addressed enough. However, I don't believe that saying women have to be on the lookout because some men are assholes is the same as saying men don't face harassment. The fact remains that a man is likely (statistically) to be stronger than a woman. And this means that women are more likely to face a threat to their safety than men are. That being the case, all harassment still needs to be taken seriously as women are 100% capable of doing real damage to men, especially men who are unwilling to fight back.
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SHAZAM 43 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
Cont. And women don't want to give out their numbers to strangers because some men are assholes who will use that number to harass you, and women don't want to change their number.
My best advice to guys out there, struggling to pursue women successfully: Don't ask for her number to start a conversation. Start a conversation. Pay her a compliment, about something other than appearance if possible. Comment on the weather, bring up something situationally relevant such as "I hate how this bus stop is always so crowded at this time" but avoid asking questions about where she is going/how often she comes here as most women find that creepy. If she seems open to your conversation, then maybe ask for her number, or even better, offer her yours. You could also suggest you could perhaps get a coffee sometime, as this is usually an acceptable "make a date with a stranger" plan. If she doesn't seem interested in the conversation, she probably doesn't want to exchange numbers or go on a date.
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My best advice to guys out there, struggling to pursue women successfully: Don't ask for her number to start a conversation. Start a conversation. Pay her a compliment, about something other than appearance if possible. Comment on the weather, bring up something situationally relevant such as "I hate how this bus stop is always so crowded at this time" but avoid asking questions about where she is going/how often she comes here as most women find that creepy. If she seems open to your conversation, then maybe ask for her number, or even better, offer her yours. You could also suggest you could perhaps get a coffee sometime, as this is usually an acceptable "make a date with a stranger" plan. If she doesn't seem interested in the conversation, she probably doesn't want to exchange numbers or go on a date.
SHAZAM 43 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
Alright, I think everyone is just a little defensive about this, so let's try to take a step back and evaluate this in a way that is fair and balanced.
Everyone: Don't pursue romantic relationships when you are on the clock, don't pursue romantic relationships with some else who is on the clock. This is especially true for certain professions. Anyone in an authoritative position, its immediately uncomfortable as we are expected to listen to you and romantic relationships should be based on equal standing. For anyone in a service position, its immediately uncomfortable for them as part of their job is to be nice to us.
Women: Cut men a break. Obviously its important to expect respect but asking for your number isn't disrespectful. As long as he is otherwise respectful, just decline politely.
Men: Please remember that women face the world differently than you do. You may be a nice guy, but there are guys who seem nice and invite you to dinner and then choke you during sex.
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Everyone: Don't pursue romantic relationships when you are on the clock, don't pursue romantic relationships with some else who is on the clock. This is especially true for certain professions. Anyone in an authoritative position, its immediately uncomfortable as we are expected to listen to you and romantic relationships should be based on equal standing. For anyone in a service position, its immediately uncomfortable for them as part of their job is to be nice to us.
Women: Cut men a break. Obviously its important to expect respect but asking for your number isn't disrespectful. As long as he is otherwise respectful, just decline politely.
Men: Please remember that women face the world differently than you do. You may be a nice guy, but there are guys who seem nice and invite you to dinner and then choke you during sex.
Do you have agree with that? 9 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
That may be the case I suppose. Severe enough trauma is probably enough to make growing up less of a process and more of a "you're not a kid anymore " kind of experience.
I can tell you that even as a kid who grew up in a couple of dysfunctional households, learning to care care of my siblings when I was still in eay elementary because no one else was taking care of them, having forced sexual experiences my brain straight up repressed for years and dealt with by having nightmares, and being yelled at for crying because I "didn't have a good reason to cry" was difficult and lead me not to have a "normal childhood". However I still had a childhood and that didn't just end when I learned to change a diaper, it didn't end when I was raped, it didn't end when I was taken from a household full of neglect and placed into an emotionally abusive one.
Maybe this is because all of those things happened when I was young, and I continued to still be a child, albeit an abnormal one.
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I can tell you that even as a kid who grew up in a couple of dysfunctional households, learning to care care of my siblings when I was still in eay elementary because no one else was taking care of them, having forced sexual experiences my brain straight up repressed for years and dealt with by having nightmares, and being yelled at for crying because I "didn't have a good reason to cry" was difficult and lead me not to have a "normal childhood". However I still had a childhood and that didn't just end when I learned to change a diaper, it didn't end when I was raped, it didn't end when I was taken from a household full of neglect and placed into an emotionally abusive one.
Maybe this is because all of those things happened when I was young, and I continued to still be a child, albeit an abnormal one.
Do you have agree with that? 9 comments
Do you have agree with that? 9 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
I don't think it's a moment. I don't think there's a line and before you cross it you are a child and after that you are an adult. I think its gradual. One day your mom says "you are getting to big for this" and soon she stops picking you up. You slowly change interst in toys until one day you realize nothing you would call a toy can you admit to enjoying least you be ridiculed. You gain responsibilities. You get a part time job so you can fund your teen adventures while you are still young enough to have them. You go to college, or at least become the age where people you are friends with are going to college. You drink way to much alcohol. You become old enough to buy said alcohol. You become to old to drink so much alcohol. I think growing up is a process. You grow and change and gain responsibilities and learn you enjoy different things. I think if you think there was a moment you lost your childhood, you might be doing it wrong.
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Fat wakeful Snail 9 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
Fun fact: If you want to eat your cookie dough, use pasteurized egg product instead of eggs. The pasteurization kills salmonella, and pasteurized egg product is made with eggs and makes a really good substitute for cookies/cookie dough (and many other things, but not all things).
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Good point 55 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
I actually spoke about this at length in a other post, but I don't have the link handy.
In short: Making your own children is actually something we should be encouraged to do in moderation, and having more parents who don't produce offspring but rather take in children who need homes would be greatly beneficial, including but not limited to homosexuals.
Also, I think it goes without saying: Prejudiced people will often find ways to justify their prejudice no matter how illogical their justifications have to get in order to be congruent with their worldview. This is not true for all people, and it is always good to see someone who will change their views in the face of logic and reason, but it is true for many people. My advise is to try not to allow people who won't hear logic cause you pain from their judgement.
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In short: Making your own children is actually something we should be encouraged to do in moderation, and having more parents who don't produce offspring but rather take in children who need homes would be greatly beneficial, including but not limited to homosexuals.
Also, I think it goes without saying: Prejudiced people will often find ways to justify their prejudice no matter how illogical their justifications have to get in order to be congruent with their worldview. This is not true for all people, and it is always good to see someone who will change their views in the face of logic and reason, but it is true for many people. My advise is to try not to allow people who won't hear logic cause you pain from their judgement.
All humans skulls are the same 6 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
It's a skill of an Australian aborigine. The picture above (as far as I can tell) is of a replica made of a skull found in 1905 and known to belong to a 50 year old man from the Bindaboo tribe.
As far as I am aware it is an accurate replica not intended to be racist. I am far less certain of the poster's intentions, but I am going to give them the benefit of the doubt, this is probably the best looking image that comes up when you search "Australian skull".
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As far as I am aware it is an accurate replica not intended to be racist. I am far less certain of the poster's intentions, but I am going to give them the benefit of the doubt, this is probably the best looking image that comes up when you search "Australian skull".
Would you? 7 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
The problem with this is that every movie and show has it's own budget and strives to make a profit. Netflix/Hulu/AmazonVideo/ect. also exist to make a profit. This services must make deals in order to secure the rights to play these shows/movies. Both companies are trying to make good business decisions. Streaming services don't benefit from buying movies/shows their audience won't watch. Movies/shows have no reason to sell rights to Netflix for a movie people are paying to see with high frequency unless Netflix offers them more money than they already are making. Which Netflix has no reason to do as they would almost definitely lose money on that deal.
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Bendermon 4 comments
Who else remembers chewing through a whole pack of these bad boys? 8 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
I'm sorry that was your experience. I really hope your mother was able to get help for her mental health issues.
I'm glad the candies were still nice. :)
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I'm glad the candies were still nice. :)
The Holy Week is upon us 8 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
Arguably, but the post points out that the lyric is dumb, not the story.
Also, the wise men brought things that would be highly valuable and would be acceptable gifts to bring a king. They had no idea the child would be born in a barn until they arrived there.
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Also, the wise men brought things that would be highly valuable and would be acceptable gifts to bring a king. They had no idea the child would be born in a barn until they arrived there.
Spending 24/48 hours working can be hard especially since that is hours spent working not counting commute and not accounting for if you have to say half an hour late to finish documentation because documentation on 12 hours takes forever.
That being said, I'm only scheduled to work 36 hours most weeks (its usually a little more than that I actually end up working). And the schedule is set up to not ever work more than 32/120 hours. This means my schedule is literally different every week, but it's on a two week rotation so usually it's the same every other week. I worked this weekend (8am-8pm), and I work tomorrow night (4pm-12am) but then I am off until Thrusday night. All in all, 12 hour shifts aren't that bad so long as you aren't just generally overworked.