It's that simple 5 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
This sounds good, but making a relationship work often takes more than that, especially if one or both parties bring other baggage to the relationship at the start.
So, advise in relationships, an abbreviated list.
1. Be kind to each other. Compliments are good. Acts if kindness are great, just washing your partner's dishes or cleaning a room they made messy can do a lot to show you care.
2. Communicate. Talk to each other. Tell your partner about your upcoming schedule when you know about it. Talk about your problems to each other. Especially your problems with each other. If you tell your partner something they do bothers you it's more likely it will change than if that thing is the last straw after a long frustrating day and it becomes a fight. If you would really like it if your partner would do something they don't do- tell them. No one is a mind reader.
3. Whenever possible-walk away when you get angry and cool down before you come back....
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So, advise in relationships, an abbreviated list.
1. Be kind to each other. Compliments are good. Acts if kindness are great, just washing your partner's dishes or cleaning a room they made messy can do a lot to show you care.
2. Communicate. Talk to each other. Tell your partner about your upcoming schedule when you know about it. Talk about your problems to each other. Especially your problems with each other. If you tell your partner something they do bothers you it's more likely it will change than if that thing is the last straw after a long frustrating day and it becomes a fight. If you would really like it if your partner would do something they don't do- tell them. No one is a mind reader.
3. Whenever possible-walk away when you get angry and cool down before you come back....
Working overnight sucks because Funsub is sleeping when I'm awake 8 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
I have been glomped by someone.
I also decided to break your rules. I know what "glomp" means, obviously.
I also decided to break your rules. I know what "glomp" means, obviously.
Girl bragging about beating up her boyfriend 23 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
@guest_ touched on some really good points already. I do want to argue on the point that men impose these views. Not because its false but because it is incomplete. Society at large pushes these views. I have definitely since women push these believes too. It's something we as a society need to work on.
I have my own example that I think most of us can actually envision ourselves in. You come across a woman, she is hurt, she doesn't want to go to the hospital, she doesn't want to go to the cops. She insists she is fine when she clearly is not fine. I am going to guess a majority of people will assume she is a victim of abuse. I paint the same situation with a man instead of a woman. If this is presented outside a discussion about abuse and gender discrimination most people would probably assume he is a criminal. I know that's what I would probably think.
And that is still an example of the deeply rooted issues with gender biases.
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I have my own example that I think most of us can actually envision ourselves in. You come across a woman, she is hurt, she doesn't want to go to the hospital, she doesn't want to go to the cops. She insists she is fine when she clearly is not fine. I am going to guess a majority of people will assume she is a victim of abuse. I paint the same situation with a man instead of a woman. If this is presented outside a discussion about abuse and gender discrimination most people would probably assume he is a criminal. I know that's what I would probably think.
And that is still an example of the deeply rooted issues with gender biases.
Girl bragging about beating up her boyfriend 23 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
I am not sure about some of these statistics, but the shelters statistic is wrong. On a couple different levels actually. 1. There are many shelters which are gender neutral. 2. There are shelters for just men, more than just one shelter. 3. By framing the issue in terms of shelters you miss the mark on the real issue. The real issue is, women often have greater access to help than men do. And this rarely boils down to resources specifically only being available to women. Usually this is a issue of bias. A burly looking dude comes in to a place where help should be available and the people who work their are likely to believe he is a problem before he even opens his mouth. Especially if he has learned to hide his pain behind a tough exterior. Men actually face the same issue when calling the cops on their wives. This is part of some deeply rooted sexism, and I firmly believe that working towards equality on both sides is the only way to see real long term progress in this regard.
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Anti-vax logic 14 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
...therefore nothing is true. But everything is possible. Except things we know for certain are not true. Because we can test something and prove a hypothesis false relativity easily.
And so essentially if you can't prove its false it is probably true is sort of the best we have for theories of the universe. And therefore, since we can't disprove the existence of God-there probably is one. Sure, it's a lot more complicated than that. But at its core, this is the kind of rational that Christians in the scientific community use to justify their beliefs.
The important thing is-science isn't opposed to religion. And when you refuse to even learn about something because it might oppose your beliefs, you are the problem.
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And so essentially if you can't prove its false it is probably true is sort of the best we have for theories of the universe. And therefore, since we can't disprove the existence of God-there probably is one. Sure, it's a lot more complicated than that. But at its core, this is the kind of rational that Christians in the scientific community use to justify their beliefs.
The important thing is-science isn't opposed to religion. And when you refuse to even learn about something because it might oppose your beliefs, you are the problem.
Anti-vax logic 14 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
...do with science opposing thoughtlessness and lack of education. Church officials understood that their power in the world came largely from the fact that most people couldn't actually read the bible for themselves and had to rely on a middle man for their ability to achieve an afterlife in heaven. Scientists supported reason. Reason is a natural enemy of the state. An ignorant people is one who is easier to control. And that is exactly what the church in those days wanted.
And some church officials may want that now, but a lot has changed, and their is less power in it now.
And as such there is less reason now than there has ever been for science and religion to be at odds. The fact is, science is sort of based on the idea that if you try really hard to disprove something and fail repeatedly, that thing must be true. Because you can't actually prove something is true without first taking some things as true on faith. And science tries to take as little on faith as possible...
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And some church officials may want that now, but a lot has changed, and their is less power in it now.
And as such there is less reason now than there has ever been for science and religion to be at odds. The fact is, science is sort of based on the idea that if you try really hard to disprove something and fail repeatedly, that thing must be true. Because you can't actually prove something is true without first taking some things as true on faith. And science tries to take as little on faith as possible...
Anti-vax logic 14 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
@mostlyghostly06 The problem here is that you think it is a question of science or religion and have already made up your mind as to which is correct without even entertaining the possibility of the other even as a tool for understanding others beliefs. This is the root kind of refusal to be educated that the post is making fun of. It's also the kind of mentality that allows for discrimination and hatred to grow unchecked for generations. Even if your beliefs result in being kind and fair to all people, if your starting point is blind adherence to the religion with no room to even understand other beliefs you are still wrong. And more often than not that blind adherence actually leads to allowances to terrible acts.
Science isn't against religion. In fact some of the greatest scientific minds in history have been religious men. Often scientists found themselves at odds with the church, but this usually had very little to do with science opposing religion. It almost always had to...
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Science isn't against religion. In fact some of the greatest scientific minds in history have been religious men. Often scientists found themselves at odds with the church, but this usually had very little to do with science opposing religion. It almost always had to...
Noone reads this 2 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
I agree that people who do not have mental illnesses are just as capable of such acts, but so are people with good parents, or people who were never bullied. Mental illness is a factor as much as any of these things are. Video games not being on the knife is saying video games aren't even a factor. Which I agree with to be honest. We have seen no tangible evidence that video games are a factor, and studying that say otherwise are coming from some pretty biased places.
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You wouldn't steal a dress. 1 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
Fun fact: you can't copyright a dress. You can charge for access to a pattern. Hell, you don't have to make a pattern available. But ultimately if someone can figure out how to copy your design they can. This is part of why fashion changes so quickly. Once you design something it's only a matter of time before someone has copied the pattern and is reproducing it on the cheap. As a fashion designer you have to produce new designs often in order to continue to profit from your designs.
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At least it'll be better for the environment 12 comments
This story is gold 4 comments
Anti-vax logic 14 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
No.
1. A monkey isn't a specific species. Different monkeys have different genetic codes. Their similarities to humans are not uniform.
2. Monkeys are not apes. Both are primates. Humans are far more closely related to other apes than we are related to monekys. We share more of our genetic code because we have a closer common ancestor.
3. Humans are only about 60% genetically similar to bananas. The number varies a little from moneky to monkey, but it's around 90% in general.
4. Even if your statement was true, it wouldn't suggest evolution was false. It would suggest we had a closer common ancestor with bananas. It would suggest that humans aren't actually primates at all. Or perhaps, oddly, that bananas were primates. It would raise a lot of questions and almost certainly shift our view of evolution. But it is not actually evidence against the theory of evolution.
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1. A monkey isn't a specific species. Different monkeys have different genetic codes. Their similarities to humans are not uniform.
2. Monkeys are not apes. Both are primates. Humans are far more closely related to other apes than we are related to monekys. We share more of our genetic code because we have a closer common ancestor.
3. Humans are only about 60% genetically similar to bananas. The number varies a little from moneky to monkey, but it's around 90% in general.
4. Even if your statement was true, it wouldn't suggest evolution was false. It would suggest we had a closer common ancestor with bananas. It would suggest that humans aren't actually primates at all. Or perhaps, oddly, that bananas were primates. It would raise a lot of questions and almost certainly shift our view of evolution. But it is not actually evidence against the theory of evolution.
Anti-vax logic 14 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
Over time this meant that less of the population had certain traits, and the primates who did were still less likely to have children. Even if you have start with a population that is 100% blue hair and only has a .01% chance of producing a red haired child. If every blue haired child was killed on their 30th birthday, eventually you would be up with a population that has nearly all red hair.
This is again a simplification of the process, but they key is there. Changes are the result if random mutations I'm the genetic code being beneficial enough that they get passed on more than what used to be typical. Evolution is slow.
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This is again a simplification of the process, but they key is there. Changes are the result if random mutations I'm the genetic code being beneficial enough that they get passed on more than what used to be typical. Evolution is slow.
Anti-vax logic 14 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
I want start by stating I don't think there is anything wrong with believing God created humans who were genetically the same species of humans we see today with no evolution having happened. I think it raises questions about the origin of other humanoid species in our genus and why God choose to create humans specifically when similar species already existed in the world. But again, I don't see anything wrong with believing that.
The problem I have is with people having a problem with learning what the theory is to better understand it because it is contrary to their religious beliefs.
And on that note, I have a problem with your statement. It's an obvious strawman argument. You make the belief in evolution seem stupid by misrepresentation and oversimplification. No primate, monkey or otherwise, changed in its life to become more human like. At least not in the theory of evolution. Instead, primate children which more closely resembled humans had a high survival or mating rate.
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The problem I have is with people having a problem with learning what the theory is to better understand it because it is contrary to their religious beliefs.
And on that note, I have a problem with your statement. It's an obvious strawman argument. You make the belief in evolution seem stupid by misrepresentation and oversimplification. No primate, monkey or otherwise, changed in its life to become more human like. At least not in the theory of evolution. Instead, primate children which more closely resembled humans had a high survival or mating rate.
This story is gold 4 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
It depends. If the spaghetti is cooked but not overcooked there is a good chance it will stick to a porous surface like a cupboard or wood paneling. It may even stick to wallpaper or painted plaster. Increased chance if your spaghetti is cooked in the minimal water needed for the amount of pasta. You know how spaghetti sometimes sticks to itself in the pan? This is mostly due to starch, which makes your spaghetti stickier in general. If you have more water less starch will stick to each piece of spaghetti, so your spaghetti will be less sticky.
In short, various factors determine if your spaghetti will stick and therefore well it is completely possible to get spaghetti to stick to your wall, it is not a good measure of if your spaghetti is cooked.
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In short, various factors determine if your spaghetti will stick and therefore well it is completely possible to get spaghetti to stick to your wall, it is not a good measure of if your spaghetti is cooked.
Anti-vax logic 14 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
Evolution is change in genetics over time. That's all. There is literally no reason why belief in creationism should cause you to believe evolution is impossible.
Believing a powerful being created the universe makes you a creationist. Believing evolution is impossible just makes you ignorant. It has happened within recorded history. Animal husbandry is literally humans taking control of evolution in particular species.
Believing a powerful being created the universe makes you a creationist. Believing evolution is impossible just makes you ignorant. It has happened within recorded history. Animal husbandry is literally humans taking control of evolution in particular species.
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thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
So was I. This joke always seemed dumb to me. Like, this is an old man with a still empty jar, of course he had a hard time opening the jar. The doctor in this story is an idiot.
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The title here 6 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
Now I feel super old.
It was an extremely popular song when it came out. I can remember listening to it in my english class. It was played everywhere, and people who bothered to listen to the lyrics tended to enjoy it for the beat anyway. A lot of people knew what the song was about, but almost no one cared.
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It was an extremely popular song when it came out. I can remember listening to it in my english class. It was played everywhere, and people who bothered to listen to the lyrics tended to enjoy it for the beat anyway. A lot of people knew what the song was about, but almost no one cared.
The wall scares me 22 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
Yes. And as @jasonmon pointed out, this can be especially problematic if you or your partner are tall. A queen size bed is both wider and longer than a full. And while full xl does take up less space, it's still takes up more space than a full, and finding sheets is a huge pain in the ass. I had a full xl for space reasons at one time (because I am tall). I HAD to order sheets online, as there were literally no local options. And then the first sheets I ordered the company sent me the wrong sheets and never responded to my complaint. (Amazon refunded me the money, but I still didn't have sheets)
I was able to get sheets, but it was an ordeal.
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I was able to get sheets, but it was an ordeal.
The wall scares me 22 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
Yeah, being tall has downsides. I'm not too tall for my bed now, but when I was a teen I had a full size bed. And my feet didn't hang off the edge (I'm not THAT tall) but if my feet were against the foot board and I was laying parallel to the edge, the top of my head was just about an inch shy if the headboard. And I was one of those one arm under the pillow sort of people in those days. My solution was to lay at an angle and take advantage of the diagonal being longer than the length.
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Maths 4 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
The Incredibles 2 is actually referencing something called "New Math" which was a brief but drastic change in the way American schools taught math in the 1960's.
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Yeah no 27 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
The thing is, having your parent bounce in and out of your life is often worse than them being gone entirely, especially if you have a healthy family with your adoptive parents. So I understand the desire to keep your child's birth parents from being involved, especially when the child is young. Especially if the situation surrounding them being given up is a complicated one.
There is a big difference between an open adoption of a child of a 14 year old, who wants to keep seeing their child and being part of their life, but just isn't in a place to raise a child, and the adoption of a child of a drug addict, who can't be there consistently for their child. And maybe the parent wants to be, and maybe they are even working to improve themselves. But at some point it's not about if the parent is deserving of seeing the child, but what is best for the child.
In any case it's not a simple answer, and probably needs case by case assessment.
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There is a big difference between an open adoption of a child of a 14 year old, who wants to keep seeing their child and being part of their life, but just isn't in a place to raise a child, and the adoption of a child of a drug addict, who can't be there consistently for their child. And maybe the parent wants to be, and maybe they are even working to improve themselves. But at some point it's not about if the parent is deserving of seeing the child, but what is best for the child.
In any case it's not a simple answer, and probably needs case by case assessment.
Sustenance choices 3 comments
thekaylapup
· 5 years ago
A lightyear is a measure of distance, not time. Not sure what 10 lightyears later would mean.
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4. Be honest. I feel this should be obvious, but sometimes even things that seem obvious go right over our heads when we aren't thinking about them. Generally speaking the truth upfront will be better that the truth when it finally catches up to you months later.
5. Don't be mean. Don't put each other down or insult the others friends or family. Make sure when you are being honest about bad things its constructive.
6. Be considerate. Your actions always effect other people and your partner more than most....