I mean, apologizing Is pretty much the only thing I have to mark me as more than just a "northernmost American." Apologizing and maple syrup. And apparently flying bears.
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And to answer your unasked question: no, I cannot respond to your comments with anything less than a short novel's worth of comments

Anything we can do to help stop people from becoming monsters (even momentary monsters), and salvage the ones who can be.. May be worth a shot.
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I think it would be worthwhile for you to maybe at some point consider talking to other victims/survivors as well. Whether it's women raped by men, men raped by women, either victims of false accusations. Maybe even some other people such as psychiatrists/psychologists in the field.
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I'm certainly not saying you have to or telling you how to go about things, just making some suggestions. It may be easier to approach the issue when you can have a personal experience with people on all sides.

I don't know how to word this without it sounding wrong, but hopefully anyone who reads understands anyway.
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Some rapists end up convicted because the girl/guy they've been dating was drunk. Does that make them a rapist? Yes. Does it make them a monster? It depends on the situation to a degree. And depending on the situation, maybe they can be rehabilitated.
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There isn't much hope for people who are convicted of sex crimes in terms of starting over. And some of them -won't- be salvageable no matter how early you get to them.
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But the old "an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure" is certainly worth a shot

Now these people are 100% guilty. There is no shred of doubt, the woman even confessed at one point (I think throwing her boyfriend under the bus, but ider at this point).
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I'm not a fan of people suffering. But I'm not sure I really care if these two ever get rehabilitated. I don't truly believe they can be.
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That said, I've also seen the episode "White Bear" from "Black Mirror." While it's not reality, a lot of people wish it could be. To me it just made me feel slightly Ill.
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I'm not sure what my point was now. I guess it was something along the lines of I can see merit to your rehabilitation idea for some cases.

I will be honest in that, on a lot of levels, I have difficulty sympathizing with most rapists.
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The person I mentioned earlier, unrelated to this, was a man who kidnapped, raped, tortured, and murdered a little girl. His girlfriend helped him the entire way.
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They were both arrested, but it was eventually revealed that somehow the girlfriend had been moved to what is known as a "healing lodge." This is not a prison. A relative of mine stayed in the same one this woman was at. They have rooms. They have leather seats and a fireplace. They have no fences. Some of the women who were serving sentences have their children there. Some younger than the little girl that was murdered.
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After much outrage and trauma to the parents of the victim, this woman was finally moved back to an actual prison.
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They just announced that the man involved has now been moved from a maximum security prison to a medium security prison, and the parents are going through the entire thing all over again

The third issue is people misunderstanding your intent and potentially viewing you as a rapist sympathizer, which, outside of the shallows of the Internet, is a decently dangerous thing to be seen as (unless you're the president of the United states. I'm sorry I just had to <_<). Even without being dangerous, it can severely undermine your message.
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Keep in mind I'm not saying ANY of this to discourage you. As with the previous things, I'm just trying to make sure you can go into whatever decision you make in the future with eyes as open as they can be

There's a few issues you can face with doing speaking or working with people who have a proclivity to commit crimes. The first is, usually in order for them to be identified as having a proclivity, they have to have already committed or attempted to commit a crime. Or else had to seek help, which is often with a counseller, and might be privileged. The ones who dont fall into this category often either don't think they would ever do something like that, or don't believe they commited a crime, or won't admit it in the first place.
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Another issue is there's a danger of becoming emotionally involved, which may seem like something managable on the first place, but depending on how far you go with it, and how deep the problems the people you try to help go, there is a very real possibility of it burning you out in short order.

Time tends to affect even what seems like our biggest motivations and intentions in ways we never anticipate.
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Then again, you're a fairly driven person from the sounds of it. I imagine once you get an idea in your head you just wait for the right time to make it happen

I know you didn't mean it this way but I first read that as "I was smart and started a consulting company BEFORE I went out and got my record tarnished up." Like you pre-planned to go and have your record tarnished but made sure you had a company ready to go, unlike those other schmucks who didn't have the foresite to build a company before getting involved in a crimespiracy. Anyway I found it a little amusing, but maybe that's just me being overtired.
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I imagine this is a lot more emotional thing for you given you actually did and still are living it. :/ still, I'm glad you waited until you were ready (I hope) to talk about it, even if it's to a smaller audience than you originally planned. Who knows, maybe after you revisit it the funsub community will be back in some kind of shape and you'll feel comfortable addressing more of them again. Or maybe you'll revisit in eventually and think "I've actually had enough of this," and put the book on the shelf.

-record stops- wait, what? Mushrooms?

Tbh I've kind of enjoyed the sunrise/set pics. It's been nice to see the community come together with just something simple and wholesome

@aviva Haha it's okay. I figured maybe you'd just scanned the sheer volume of messages and been like ".. Imma just respond to this one." I do that when I see there's like 30+ responses to a comment.
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But yeah, I wasn't trying to discourage him at all. We can all agree it's a "good" story (good in that it has a message etc, not that it happened), and an important one. Ive just learner it's never good to go into an experience like that unprepared to face the potential backlash. Telling the story in situations like this can sometimes have more gruelling fallout than what transpired beforehand. It's why a lot of victims of rape never used to come forward.
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If Jason feels empowered enough and ready enough to tell his story, it's worthwhile for people to hear it. Though even if he does, it will likely still be years before it could come out anyway.

I've lost track of what I've said at this point so hopefully I said what I was trying to say (it's been a bit of a long day and I'm a scatterbrain at the best of times).
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I certainly took up enough posts to do so at any way :s

Well it was just to cycy specifically tbh-- I only said about 6 things in total in the discord, most of which were addressed to cycy anyway, and then cycy asked if they could message me privately. I didn't get into any details about anything, as I said, I literally just said something along the lines of "jasonmon has been to hell and back in the last year from the sounds of it," and mentioned a few other people who have been having rough times.
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Haha you probably handled it more diplomatically than I did. There's a few uses I rarely see get truly pissed off about anything (guest_ being another one), so anytime I see them (including you) fired up a bit it's like "well, shit definitely just got real in here."
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But yeah, it's one thing for a stupid bot to post those pics by accident, it's another for people to spam it deliberately. Weird thing is I don't even normally open the NSFW images, but the titles caught my attention that day for some reason

I don't know the solution, and I don't know enough about laws to even begin to get into the intricacies of it. If you have some concept, and feel you could do some good, then it may be worth a shot. It runs the risk of putting you in the spotlight, but no more so than a movie would I suppose. it is an important story, and I think it's worth telling. Whether people can take it as it should be without twisting it into something wicked or not. A lot of people will see it for what it is, and probably find something.. Idk "hopeful" doesn't seem like quite the right word but I can't think of a better one atm

It's the catch 22 of any problem like this, I think. "No good deed goes unpunished," as they say. I would never want to see a rapist, especially paedophile, or other guilty criminal just walk free because they manipulate the system. However, it just makes me think of the old adage "better let a guilty man go free than let an innocent one suffer." If an innocent man is rotting away in prison for a crime he didn't commit, the guilty man is getting away with it anyway. Maybe someone will use your story to weasel out of justice. But it might save someone from being persecuted in their place.
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I don't know, I've never been the victim of a crime to that degree. Im not sure how some of the people here who have been would feel. But I think even if I had been I'd rather see someone like you be let out of prison alongside a man I know is guilty, than see someone like you suffer the same fate as him.

And I'm sorry you're having to put up with them on top of everything else you've gone through. Not that it's my fault, I know, but I'm Canadian, and therefore I'm allowed to apologize whether I'm blamed or not.
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It may not be necessary but part of me hopes you have some kind of security for yourself like cameras or whatnot. I'm not asking you to say because the over-thinker in me goes "okay, but if someone sees exactly what security measures this person has in their home.. That'll make it a lot easier to bypass them if they want to." Just how my brain works.
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Well that's as good as an appeal to me. Getting it gone so it doesn't have the ability to impact your life. Even things as simple as boarding a plane or getting a job can become a nightmare with even a simple charge on your record. Not that I probably need to tell you that-- at this point I'm sure you have a better grasp of that than I do.
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People like that are terrible. Most likely none of them were even involved. I remember seeing the thing on Netflix about the girl who got raped, came forward, and some select members of the community responded by burning her house down. I understand the desire to act out to a degree when you feel there's an injustice being had, but most of these types of people don't even fall into that category... they're just destructive, horrible slugs, spreading hate and somehow feeling justified by trying to ruin someone's life

Also, not related, but nice unicorn

Tbh I think your story is important. Part of me is concerned about the reception it would have regardless of the medium because the stupid people have been allowed to reproduce for too long.
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I feel like whatever route you take you're going to have (mostly) women calling you a liar, a rapist, or even just trying to distract from the "REAL" issues (aka women being raped), or demean their cause.
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And on the other side you'll have the people who turn your story into a weapon "see?? See?? Men are just persecuted victims who never rape anyone, and women are just lying sluts who need to stop crying over spilt milk."
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I don't agree with either of those viewpoints because they're so barbarically wrong. I guess I just feel like it needs to be mentioned so it doesn't catch you off guard? Though you've probably already taken it into consideration

I'm not sure which questions to ask without revealing too much you might not want left on this website. I'm assuming the charges were laid in America, and since you made that deal there probably isn't a chance you can appeal it and have it overturned?
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You said you're considering potential codification (<- make me google things, will ya <.<), and I'm curious what your proposition in terms of it would be?