xlaxxine · 1 week ago
Friends don't just become strangers. Just do a group video call and you'll realize how much they mean to you and you mean to them.
catfluff · 1 week ago
Nope, real friends respect your wishes even if they don't agree with it or benefit from it <3 you aim to make each other better people. That includes respecting doing what's good for you, such as staying home if you're afraid of getting it.
parisqeen · 1 week ago
I understand if they miss you but if you're worried, like @catfluff said, they should respect your concerns. If they care they won't mind waiting a bit longer to hang out with you and there are alternative ways to talk or chill with each other.
bruh · 1 week ago
@xlaxxine we used to group call like once a week but that stopped for a number of reasons like university work and actual real life work. I don't know I just feel like they're super upset at me, like too upset at me even for a call.
bruh · 1 week ago
@catfluff thanks that's a little reassuring. ❤️
bruh · 1 week ago
@parisqeen yeah I get that. I have tried getting in contact through other means just hasn't worked out I guess.
hughrey · 1 week ago
This is what they want with this pandemic thing, to keep us separated to the point that we become strangers. Don’t let them, find ways to chat with your friends and family.
rosalinas · 1 week ago
I understand some people prefer physical interaction.
BUT there is nothing selfish about putting your health first, you friends can be upset but BC they're your friends, they should understand how you feel too.
Stay safe
snowbeast · 1 week ago
I have friends who I haven't seen since this all started. Their choice. I have other friends who I have seen more than ever lately, as we both choose the needed emotional support that comes from meeting face to face. I know many I care about (especially older people) who have self-isolated, and in all cases we stay in touch by phone or whatever works. All it takes is an honest phone call where you describe how you are feeling, emphasize that there is nothing personal to the particular friend and that you really wish to spend time together in an alternate form. Make concrete suggestions. Skype dinners or game sessions (either online or traditional like scrabble) have turned out more successful than I first imagined. If your friends genuinely don't get why you choose to isolate and also, despite your clarifications, choose to take it as a personal affront, then they are not good friends. I would call such a reaction either due to narcissism (and an inability to adjust one's perspective)
snowbeast · 1 week ago
Or a wish to emotionally blackmail you, creating a power imbalance which can be invoked at another time.
ratfink11 · 1 week ago
People that dont take your feelings into account are not friends. I barely go out and i dont usually reply to messages. My anxiety and stress are so much better and i got people mad at me. Oh well, I know this pandemic is really bad, but its been good for me. Ive been so sick with anxiety and physical shit for so long with no repreave and now im getting the time to reboot and heal some. And i have a lot of animals that rely on me and if i get sick, they die. Easy choice for me to make. You need to listen to your gut when it comes to your well being. Your gut nevers lies and if they are friends, they will come around to see your well being comes first.
ratfink11 · 1 week ago
People that dont take your feelings into account are not friends. I barely go out and i dont usually reply to messages. My anxiety and stress are so much better and i got people mad at me. Oh well, I know this pandemic is really bad, but its been good for me. Ive been so sick with anxiety and physical shit for so long with no reprieve and now im getting the time to reboot and heal some. And i have a lot of animals that rely on me and if i get sick, they die. Easy choice for me to make. You need to listen to your gut when it comes to your well being. Your gut nevers lies and if they are friends, they will come around to see your well being comes first.
purplepumpkin · 1 week ago
I feel the same way and the other day, feeling guilty of saying no for 3 months, I went out with 2 close friends. Well they went to buy street food, then in a bar, in crowded streets and shops so I was increasingly nervous (a bit sad too that they weren't more considerate knowing that we're usually taking care of each other) and ended up having an asthma attack. Didn't have a good time, not worth it and I'm pretty sure it was awkward for them too. If they're friends, they'll understand or at the very least respect your decisions. If they're not, at least you know.