Went through a sort of revelation recently. Back in middle school, a girl (lets call her Jane) admitted she had a crush on me, through the school chat board. I, at the time, sorta assumed she was messing with me like everyone else. I mean, she was pretty and fairly popular, and I was, well, me. I brushed her off, and sorta just kept away. That was about six years ago. And recently, about a week or two ago, I went to a funeral, the wife of a friend had passed. Turns out, the woman was Jane's grandmother. Jane was at the funeral with her boyfriend, and I sorta said hi, and walked back to my seat way before the service started, because I definitely wasn't sure what else to say. After the service, she apparently went to my friend, her grandfather, and told him about our small past. He told me a few days ago, and that it was serious. Jane ended up thinking it was because she was Mexican that I got weird about it. I can't really bring it all back up with her and talk to her about it either.
by
captainjackharknes · 5 comments
3 years ago
captainjackharknes
· 3 years ago
Jane recently got engaged to her boyfriend, and I can't just bring that up, even her grandfather said it would be a bad idea. I just... I feel so guilty about it.
daxanddevin
· 3 years ago
Shit. That’s a tough one. As a woman, mother, and former teenager, I wish I had advice for you. There are some things we just never forget. It might make you feel better to let her know you didn’t reject her based on race (or at all, it was a miscommunication). I actually wrote out a few ideas of what to say but they all sounded so fake. Good luck captain.
captainjackharknes
· 3 years ago
I'd love to just send her a message and come clean, but, she's engaged now, with a daughter from a previous relationship. I don't want to throw a wrench in that. I mean, it'd make things just sorta more than uncomfortable. Maybe I'll wait further on, after she's married...
iccarus
· 3 years ago
being young, it's hard to find the confidence, don't dwell on it, it may not have worked out for you.
purplepumpkin
· 3 years ago
If you feel guilry maybe you could just say stuff exactly how you feel them. Like "it was nice seing you the other day. I'm sorry I appeared mean to you as a kid, we had a miscommunication [explain the stuff] I hope we can stay friends. I'm glad you found the person you deserve/[name of guy]/..., congrats on your engagement!"