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catfluff · 3 years ago
Hey Ew, had the same issues with my parents, and I completely understand. While some people might tell you it's important to be grateful for all that, I'm telling you yes, you may be, but you may also be upset as fucking shit cause you don't get to live your own life and have to puppyfuck around instead and follow commands. I would honestly advise you to move out if at all possible - yes, financially it might be difficult, but you get to be. You get to choose to improve your own life instead of being puppeteered around. It made a massive difference to my mental health when I moved out, and the first thing I said when lockdown started was how glad I was to be able to rule my own life in my own place. Yes, I can't go out or have fancy food or buy whatever I want cause I have to be frugal - but at least I don't want to kill myself literally every fucking second.
Now that I've moved out our relationship improved, and I love them out of love instead of out of fear and obedience.
jingle · 3 years ago
I'm glad you took the time to vent and get this off your chest, taking care of your own health and wellbeing is always a priority. There's probably no words I can use to help you feel any better, but I want to say that if you ever need to talk, we're here for you :3
bethorien · 3 years ago
*comforting hugs ew fren forever*
creativedragonbaby · 3 years ago
Right buddy. This sounds like a lotta crap for you rn. Your parents remind me of the parents of Iruma in “Welcone to demon school Iruma” where they have him do a whole bunch of chores and dangerous jobs and eventually sell his soul for money.
I think your parents need to understand that younger people need more sleep and tend to stay up later and sleep in later simply because it’s their biology. Though your parents don’t sound like the understanding type.
creativedragonbaby · 3 years ago
I wonder if someone could log into your account and complete those two levels for you to get the medusa skin?
The puppy is probably teething at the moment which means a lot of chewing
creativedragonbaby · 3 years ago
(Or perhaps it has attachment issues)
If you feel like you’re ok with paying for the summer price, go ahead my dude. If you’re more comfortable living in Miramichi, then do it. Weigh the pros and cons, pack your bags and go. And maybe if you explain to your landlord the situation, they might be empathetic?
dr_richard_ew · 3 years ago
Sorry my reply took so long to get to, I wanted to use my computer so I could see your messages before responding, but I had to stay upstairs the entire day and look after the puppy until now, so I'll be going in order:
@cakelover Thank you bro.
@savage_demigod you and everyone else on fs do help a ton, thank you :3
@tarotnathers13th He was a very wise man (even if that quote reminds me too much of an old country song lol).
@catfluff I want to do that so bad but I really need to watch my finances because one wrong move and I could go back to bad poverty any time, plus if I run out now my parents might not understand my plight and choose to cut off the additional funding they were supplying me, which would really screw me over.
@jingle thank you very much for you and your words.
@bethorien *hugs beth back bc I love you very very muchhhhhhhhh*
dr_richard_ew · 3 years ago
@creativedragonbaby ok a couple things to discuss here: 1. yes they REALLY don't understand some people's habits nowadays, 2. I could but idk if I trust anyone enough (I have one bro but idk if he'd be willing to), 3. Yes our puppy (charlie) is teething a super amount but she always chooses to chew on my sister the most for some unexplained reason (like, she'll run after her and jump to bite her pant leg), 4. There are a huge amount of pros and cons with this, and a whole fuck ton to weigh. I want to go there a lot, but expenses are hard right now and my parents might get even harder on me if I try to just jump up and go. Besides, I have it set rn where the cheques are coming to their house bc thats where I was supposed to be this whole summer, and I'm nervous to change it bc I don't want to accidentally fuck up the CERB due to my own stupidity (do not doubt my stupidity; I CAN make it happen without trying to)
ooops · 3 years ago
I obviously can't fully know your situation, but it sounds like there has just been a lot of stuff building and building and that today it all kind of came to a head, which is really tough. I'm glad you've been able to stick through it so far.
I think it's hard in general to be an adult, especially when you've had that taste of independence from your parents, to move back in with them. They will in some ways always see you as a child that they need to mold, but you are your own person, and they don't (or shouldn't) have the same control over you that they did when you were younger. I don't know your parents, but if you want to try to stay with them, it might be worth a try to actively voice your independence, saying something along the lines of "I need to live my own life." Yes, it's nice of them to help out when you are struggling financially, but you can't let that run your relationship with them. Hopefully you can find a compromise where they can respect your independence.
purplepumpkin · 3 years ago
Hey I'm late to come on this thread but as others have said, your problems are not to be belittled, stuff like that can really undermine you on a daily basis and leave you exhausted and alienated. Not being in control of one's own life is really tough for an adult because it puts a lot of things back in question. But! the bright side is you know you want to get out so it will give you motivation as soon as you have the possibility to do something about it. Enjoying stuff you like will come back naturally.
I also didn't have an internet access during the lockdown at my parents' (except my 100Mo/month data) so I get the feeling of being physically and mentally trapped in a narrow space. That's a valid feeling. What worked for me was to accept the situation and embrace the change_no internet, ok, I'll do something else, people yelling, I'll go for a walk etc. Maybe you can find yourself a whole new hobby? Teach stuff to the puppy for instance, or try your hand at wood carving if you can?
f__kyeahhamburg · 3 years ago
Hey Dude,
to quote the Beasty Boys: Living at home is such a drag.
I would never tell you to be happy concerning not having bills or work. I started working full time when I was 17 and I moved out right away. I couldn't wait to be self sufficient and rather making own experiences than living the stenciled life my parents were thinking I'd live. And after a while they understood that it's my life, not theirs and that if I'm making mistakes, they're not the end of the world but opportunities to grow.
My only advice in this situation would be: suck it up. I'm not saying your struggle isn't real but it's nothing compared to what waits for you in real life. It's only one year to go and your current problems will be done and replaced by a million others to challenge you and you should be looking forward to it! I know, the night is darkest before dawn, but just hang in there and look at what you've got: shelter, food, education and crappy internet. More than most in the world can ask for. ;)
funkmasterrex · 3 years ago
It's your job to plant yourself like a tree and say no; you move. You might get kicked out, this is true.... but either way you'll wind up happier.
funkmasterrex · 3 years ago
And honestly, if it means saving your fucking life, I have a bedroom you can just sort of have if you can find a way here.
dr_richard_ew · 3 years ago
@funkmasterrex where do you even live? Bc you may be way too far away lol
funkmasterrex · 3 years ago
Dallas... well technically Irving. If you make it through customs I'll give you my address. I think that's a good compromise on our seriousness levels.
funkmasterrex · 3 years ago
If you fly into DFW I'll come pick you up.
dr_richard_ew · 3 years ago
I don't think I can... I'm canadian lol
funkmasterrex · 3 years ago
Try; customs prolly ain't THAT fucked
funkmasterrex · 3 years ago
If you have a car we can meet in St. Louis, and switch just for the throw off.
funkmasterrex · 3 years ago
I can use two cars and we can play a shell game o_O