@xdmaniac Look, sorry if I sounded mean. What I meant was, those romantic feelings never truly go away but if you think of the person as a person instead of a romantic interest to pursue, you can kind of push those feelings in the background to rest there. I guess it's hard to explain to a guy from a girl's point of view, but basically if you stop trying so hard to chase after that person, you'll realize that they're a person too instead of a goal for you to reach, and it becomes easier to interact with them because that imaginary goal your feelings set up for you goes away, it'll be less awkward and you'll feel more comfortable with them around. If it means you get put in the "friendzone", whatever. You'll still be near that person, interact with them, just not in a romantic way. And there's a bigger chance that they'll find something about you they like instead of betting on first impressions. (1/2)

I hear you but I can't really say that I understand because I'm not a guy. It just feels weird that you wouldn't befriend someone you like. Being near someone for the sole purpose of being in a relationship with them and with little to no prior knowledge of their personality, hobbies, interests etc. just seems like really poor planning. If you want it to work out in the long run instead of it being a two weeks thing, then you should get to know the other person as well as you can, even if it means being their friend while they're with someone else. They can break up with that person.
I'm still with my first boyfriend because we've been friends for 8 years and he had two girlfriends in the meantime. I respected his relationships and didn't intrude, but I didn't avoid him either.
People say that women are emotional but geez, you guys can't just put those feelings in the background? You can easily hide chemistry by thinking of the other person as a person instead of a point of interest.

Good point

In my experience the best and most long lasting relationships blossom from strong friendships. The wait is worth it, better than meeting someone for the sole purpose of dating them and then regretting it because you didn't even have a chance to get to know them better before jumping into a relationship with them.
I've had crushes in my life as well and even though it hurt to hear them talk about other girls they liked, the fact that they were happy made me happy too. If you break off a friendship because the other person is happy with someone else, you never had real feelings for them. The only feeling you had was selfishness.
I'm not ignoring the existence of manipulative bitches who use men's feelings for their own gain. They exist and their presence can be destructive to one's self esteem and overall psyche. But it seems you're ignoring the existence of fuckboys.

Same with Dragon Age's Iron Bull, he's pansexual but monogamous. Being bi or pansexual doesn't mean you sleep with more people, just that you have a larger group to choose from

I like the way Shoe0nhead expressed it: being bi just means you like guys and chicks, but it doesn't mean you can't be monogamous. A bisexual person doesn't equal the village slut, fucking everyone left and right. You can be bi and be in a relationship with a dude, but that won't turn you straight. You can be bi and be in a relationship with a chick, but that won't turn you into a lesbian.
I really don't get how this can be a difficult concept to understand for some people.

Dude I wish but I have no idea where he keeps them, if he even keeps them at all.

None of these assumptions are close, we're a standard middle class family with no worries about money. In fact if you read the post correctly, you'd know that my parents buy a lot of stuff for themselves. But I understand that one doesn't have the energy or focus to make structured arguments at 4 AM and quite frankly I didn't sleep well either tonight, so excuse my babbling.

Thanks, I'll try. I've already picked up some bad habits from them and some on my own but I try to improve every day.

Yelling isn't going to teach me anything. If anything, I would learn if my mom told me where she stands on this calmly and put forth proper reasoning and arguments. In fact, the reason why I put this up was to get multiple points of view from other people on the internet. We're all anonymous here, more or less, so people won't shy away from saying what they really think and I appreciate that. I don't seek approval, I seek debates with reasonable people. Maybe someone here would've told me that I'm wrong and say good reasons why, and I would actually change my opinion. That's how it works. You can't makeup for bad content of your speech by making it louder.

@garlog Yeah...my mom can be moody sometimes.
@yozogoggo Thanks... Yeah, I would only give money to a charity I had previously researched, because there are some charities out there that keep most of what they're given for their higher-ups.

These are actually correct, although the Lincoln one is taken out of context. He also said that if he could save the Union by freeing all the slaves, he would do it. Also if he freed only some slaves he would do it. The point is he wanted to save the Union, the slaves were an optional side quest.

I get that and I told them that I'm cool with paying rent and food but they said that I should focus on school without caring about money. Which is actually very nice of them, but that's why it seemed so weird that they would get their panties in a bunch over 20 bucks. And again, it was 20 bucks over the course of a half year. I hate shopping and I just don't buy stuff for myself very often because I don't need much so its not like I'm spending half my pay on charity, it was just 20 goddamn dollars.

Ok, storytime. In March, when I started regularly earning money (I'm also in college so the job is part time), I implemented a new policy on my life. I said to myself that I wouldn't spend that money on useless shit, and the way to really check myself is that whenever I buy something that I don't need (e.g. clothes that I bought just because they look nice, electronics...) I would give the same amount of money to charity. As you can see it worked because the only non vital thing I bought since then were headphones that were 80% off. Thus those $20. The charity would be one of my choice, and for my first time I chose UNICEF. My mom didn't only disapprove of the charity itself because "African people don't work and only want charity money, those moochers" but of the policy itself, saying I'm crazy and that I'll just lose all my hard earned money. I told her I only spent $20 bucks per a half year, but she still said I'm an idiot for doing this.

I have a job, it was my own money. I'm glad you're seeing the situation from multiple angles though, not everybody has the ability to doubt others' words without sounding accusatory.