You can't blame people for asking those stupid types of questions, even if people are fine with it, it's still very new to people for it to be commonly accepted, I'm not talking about the hateful remarks, I'm talking about the ones like "Who's the man?" People just aren't used to it, doesn't mean anything is wrong with them or they're not ok with it.
Which is why people must be educated about what's appropriate to ask and what's not. Another example is asking a trans person if they've "had the surgery". You wouldn't ask about anyone else's genitalia, but people don't know yet to think of it that way. They must be taught.
Is saying 'are you a man or a woman' insensitive? I would've thought that one would be okay? It could avoid awkwardness if it's not clear how someone identifies? (Sorry if it is insensitive, I genuinely don't know)
That wasn't the person asking. They were holding up a sign saying what someone has asked them. And who knows? They could be neither. Or both. Or somewhere else on the spectrum entirely.
Let's put it this way, if their blood was found at a crime scene, what would the DNA analysis say their gender is? It doesn't matter what you call yourself, only what the law of scientific fact reveals you to be. That's why we can never truely be unicorns, even if we live our entire lives as one.
That would be your sex. Your gender is in your mind. Your mind shows what you truly are. Not your body. Look up gender identity sometime. You can learn a lot.
Not just your mind, it's in everyone else's mind too. It's a cultural thing.
To be fair, I think the "are you a boy or a girl" question is asking about sex. At least, it would be if it was coming from me.
My dad is always talking like that about my best friend. My dad always asks me, when bobby has a boyfriend, who the girl is. I get really angry and tell him thats a really rude/inappropriaye thing to say and he always says its a valid question. I get so mad at him for that kind of stuff a lot...
Just tell him neither is the girl. That's the whole point when you are a gay dude......no girls. Same with gay chicks.....neither one is the man.....simple logic.
No, it means ask respectful questions. We're lightly poking fun, but many get offended when we're asked these questions. They're not something you'd ask to a heterosexual couple/person.
I ask heterosexual people about the their wife and kids all the time.
Most of the rest of them wouldn't really make any logical sense to ask a heterosexual person anyway. Would they?
yeah im not a child. I know how to use tact to be personable. but you know what? fuck the offended. and fuck me too cuz I can get over it. some questions that are asked seem deliberately offensive for the sake of being offensive and some are just innocent for lack of better words. oh and fuck P.C.
To be fair, I think the "are you a boy or a girl" question is asking about sex. At least, it would be if it was coming from me.
Most of the rest of them wouldn't really make any logical sense to ask a heterosexual person anyway. Would they?