Indeed. If she thinks you need fixing up and/or changing, then it isn't you that she's interested in, it's a fictionalized ideal of you that will never exist. If she ever says 'I like him, but...' she's full of it. If she really liked/loved him she would accept him as he is.
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Guys, if a girl ever asks you to give up on your dreams or even your hobbies, kick her to the curb, and I don't nessasarily mean metaphorically.
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And before any of you start blathering on about "oh, but love is about cooperation and compromise," that's a bunch of greeting card bullshit. I tried this "compromise" you speak of, I gave up my hobby of being a writer and dream of getting published and I was miserable. I eventually got rid of her and went back to writing. I may never get published, but I'm happy.
Well, there IS a case for compromise, but everyone has the right to a dealbreaker or two. Also, when you're in a relationship, you don't have the luxury of just thinking about yourself anymore. And then kids...just about everything I do now is in the interest of my kid. I'm even working an extra 12 hour shift each week so that I can pay off the medical bills for the next one right off the bat.
I'd never tell someone they had to choose between their dreams or their partner. Like most things in life, there's a balance to be struck.
That's true but I feel that many people will naturally change, pick up and lose old habits and become different people overall when they begin dating or even just spending time with a person.
If they wanted to further their relationship, it helps to have some stability. She obviously isn't the right person for him, and he for her, because she wants a financially stable home/relationship/whatever and he wants to follow his dreams. Both are admirable. I know I would break up with someone who didn't want me to follow my dreams, but I wouldn't have a relationship with someone who couldn't support themself, let alone a potential family.
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Guys, if a girl ever asks you to give up on your dreams or even your hobbies, kick her to the curb, and I don't nessasarily mean metaphorically.
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And before any of you start blathering on about "oh, but love is about cooperation and compromise," that's a bunch of greeting card bullshit. I tried this "compromise" you speak of, I gave up my hobby of being a writer and dream of getting published and I was miserable. I eventually got rid of her and went back to writing. I may never get published, but I'm happy.
I'd never tell someone they had to choose between their dreams or their partner. Like most things in life, there's a balance to be struck.