That's not a tom then. That's called boyish and it's really far from tom. Being tom means acting like a man to suit their straight partner's preferences.
Tomboy- an energetic, sometimes boisterous girl whose behavior and pursuits, especially in games and sports, are considered more typical of boys than of girls.
most girls who claim to be a tom is for seeking attention so they would be noticed and some because guy outfits are more comfy. most of them tho is attention seeking.
People can dress and act as they choose. How they express themselves is not your concern, nor does it say anything about them as people.
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· 10 years ago
Wouldn't someone who is of a different sexual orientation be less biased, because they probably know what it's like to be discriminated against? Isn't it about being authentically you, no matter what that is?
I'm glad you're out and happy being a lesbian, but I'm shocked that you still hold onto gender rolls and gender stereotypes that the gay community is typically fighting against
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Not everyone in the community is going to agree. I'm glad it is like that because it show not everyone believe in your " normal".
This is just the way I interpreted it: She didn't say she hates all lesbians that act boyish or whatever. Just the ones that try too hard. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's what I got from this.
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Now how about you let her have her opinion? Oh but wait, its not nice so she's not allowed to have it at all, right? Sorry, I forgot how this website works.
My cousin which I love like my own sister. Is a lesbian, she dresses like a boy, even has short hair, goes hunting, and plays sports like a boy. BUT she does not do it to be a boy, she has been this way her whole life. She loves wearing T-shirts and boots, she loves sports, and hunting. She is not seeking attention, she is not doing it so her girlfriend would like her more. She does it all for the same reason any one admits to being gay, because that is who they are. Plan and simple.
But saying you hate a certain group of people for reasons like the ones stated above isn't like and should never be treated the same as other opinions. "I hate these people because they dress a certain way" isn't the same as "I don't like strawberry ice cream."
I know, and I agree with you, but I also believe all opinions should be respected.
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I wouldn't say there are wrong opinions, per se, but there certainly are misinformed or ignorant opinions and I think it's perfectly reasonable for folks to volunteer additional information to help a person develop a more informed opinion.
No. She is being judgmental. If she said she's not into such girls or not attracted to them, that's one thing. But hating them for expressing themselves differently? And then saying that she dresses as a "normal" woman? Who is she to say how a "normal" woman dresses and acts?
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Now how about you let her have her opinion? Oh but wait, its not nice so she's not allowed to have it at all, right? Sorry, I forgot how this website works.