Idk per say, I guess someone who is a close friend that you would talk to about your feelings and listens, also really good with kids and family, cooks. just considerate people I think
As a woman, I'm so happy to see this. I think there are so many wonderful men out there, definitely my husband, who don't get the credit they deserve for being awesome human beings.
Seriously.
My wife and I both do things that don't exactly mesh with gender roles. I mean, we're not over-the-top about it, looking for approval at every turn, but she and I both work, handle finances, maintain (and do resto work on) cars, watch Thomas and MLP (our secret obsession) with the kid, not to mention everything else that goes with childcare. The only exception is that she sleeps in the kid's room way more often than I do, but that's because even if she runs out of formula, she's able to breastfeed.
There's a bunch more, of course, but these days it's normal. I actually get kinda upset when I see posts like these. To me, they're acting as if 50's America is the norm, which, at least where I live, is 100% untrue.
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My husband and I are the same way. We just see it as a partnership, not specific roles to play. We like to do things together and help each other out, side by side. I just liked this post because there's so much talk about the negative stereotyping of women, when men get it just as much.
I absolutely agree that there needs to be more talk and recognition of negative male stereotypes. I think the hurtful stuff aimed at men is often more subversive, and that often leads to people not recognizing how damaging they it is to individuals and society.
*sweeping arm gesture* show me some proof of your theory
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While it's true that womens are more "biologicaly prepared" to take care of a child (and by that I mean, just to name an example, that they are more sensitive to high pitches such as a child's cry), the diference now a days it's almost inexsistant since some major changes have occur on our enviroment (mens no longer have to go out hunting, there are no "bigger and stronger than us" menaces, etc). In plain XXI century, with all the modern technology and the huge facilities it brings, using that as an excuse for anything it's a complete bullshit.
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Damn straight. I know some awful, unloving mothers, and some awesome dads.
Men can be just as nurturing and amazing fathers. The problem is a society that tells men to be ridged and uncaring. Or that they're only role is outside the home, or they aren't needed at all to raise a child. Men who are taught that raising children isn't their job will often not on that job, nor will they value the role of nurturing and raising children as an occupation. Men are/can be just as good as women at caring for children. Don't let stringent gender roles tell you otherwise. They've only existed for a few hundred years anyway. Prior to that, men spent much more of their time actively teaching and raising their kids. It wasn't till the 16th century when men's roles moved away from the home and agriculture and toward industrialized jobs that led to today's gender roles.
"Evolution" "biology"
m a oman and I dont believe this is involved, men ARE loving, funtional parents, while some women can be really horrible, I mean, biology is not A RULE
*hint the word procreate* :)
My wife and I both do things that don't exactly mesh with gender roles. I mean, we're not over-the-top about it, looking for approval at every turn, but she and I both work, handle finances, maintain (and do resto work on) cars, watch Thomas and MLP (our secret obsession) with the kid, not to mention everything else that goes with childcare. The only exception is that she sleeps in the kid's room way more often than I do, but that's because even if she runs out of formula, she's able to breastfeed.
There's a bunch more, of course, but these days it's normal. I actually get kinda upset when I see posts like these. To me, they're acting as if 50's America is the norm, which, at least where I live, is 100% untrue.
Really, other women need to realize all of this
m a oman and I dont believe this is involved, men ARE loving, funtional parents, while some women can be really horrible, I mean, biology is not A RULE