Ok the friend zone really does exist, it's just not the over glorified thing it's represented as. To true friend zone is when a girl doesn't want to take the chance on a relationship due to possibly jeopardizing the friendship. And it can be a big bummer, cause sometimes a guy will truly love a girl, but she just doesn't want to take that risk. Granted yes it is every girls right to deny a relationship. And for people who don't truly understand it, constantly complaining about, yes they are horribly annoying, but they do have every right to free speech as the people who do have a right to complain about truly being "friend zoned"
This is probably the truest thing I've read on here. I can vouch for why girls(or guys) need the option of "friend zoning" Last spring, my best friend confessed his feelings for me. I turned him down. I actually did want to give him a chance. But I knew the risk of dating a best friend. He kept trying and trying to win me over, and eventually I gave in. A month later we were arguing so much it lead to our breakup, and our friendship has never been the same since. People, if someone "friendzones" you because they don't want to lose you as a friend, you really need to consider that
This picture may actually be accurate 95% of the time, the other 5% being "girl is actually physically attracted but does not want to take any risk of ruining everything", which is kind of a slippery slope.
inb4 "Yay for Internet statistics" I'm just stating that the friendzone is, more often than not, a lie from "rejected" boys.
Just gonna point you in the direction of my comment up above. Just my own opinion, but I want to know your thoughts on my take
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· 10 years ago
As you insist, just my two cents : I think we agree on what the "friend zone" really is, and... well, I know dem feels, bro. I have been through this once, for real, with a girl that was attracted to me in every sense, but had this kind of defense mechanism : What if I realize he is just a douche ? What if he idealized me, and ends up disappointed, and does not want to talk to me again ? What if our relationship ends abruptly and I lose a friend for having wanted to gain a lover ? And, well, I get that.
It's painful for someone who is really friendzoned, and at the same time, it's reassuring for a lot of men to just think they have been friendzoned : "she does not find me ugly, she is just difficult, because women are".
Still, shouting "I have been friendzoned, please comfort me" on public spaces is not a solution IMO ^^
true- but it's not rare for a girl to lead a guy on and then say "I just want to be friends"-or vice versa. Both genders should be entitled to reject somebody, but neither should be entitled to purposely make someone think they're interested (aka, play hard to get)
It is a risk, but its def worth a shot. My best friend was in the friend zone for 7 years. In that timeframe we both dated different people, but the feelings were always there. Then about 2 yrs ago he approached me about his feelings again and I decided to give him a chance and now we're happily married. It is complicated, but sometimes we end up not taking a chance and passing up the BEST things in our life out of fear... And honestly, that's no way to live.
being nice to a person is not flirting. it's so sad that people take it that way now...it just shows that people are so mean or fake that people being nice is taken as "oh they like me". enough of complaining about the "friendzone" because it's not the other person's fault that they may just not be interested into you or that they don't want to ruin anything between you two. take that into consideration before you whine, bitch, moan, and complain. sure, it sucks, but don't get mad at them. once you get mad at them or upset with them and become bitter about it, you don't deserve that person even as a friend anymore.
if a girl laughs at your jokes and smiles at you and hugs you and stuff that doesn't mean she's into you. she might just treat you like she treats her friends or she could be hella gay. you never know.
I shouldn't have to "give someone a chance" because they're nice to me or they love me and buy me gifts. If I'm not attracted to them, I will not go out with them because that's not how a real relationship works.
That's not the issue. The issue is that they lead you on, they flirt and they make it seem like they do want to start a relationship, and then "friendzone" you. But I've never stayed friends with a girl who "friendzoned" me, they always just seem to avoid me afterwards - hell, I'd gladly stay friends if I were given the opportunity. The whole thing is bullshit, not to even mention the number of times I've been lied to by women. So screw your "holier-than-thou" attitude, OP.
People. 99% of your problems would be instantly resolved if you TALKED more to each other.
Whenever someone gives you the impression that they're flirting with you, ask them. Either be smooth and ask them out for a date or just simply ask if they like you like you. You know, COMMUNICATE instead of being pissed about everything. Signals are easy to misread, trust me.
inb4 "Yay for Internet statistics" I'm just stating that the friendzone is, more often than not, a lie from "rejected" boys.
It's painful for someone who is really friendzoned, and at the same time, it's reassuring for a lot of men to just think they have been friendzoned : "she does not find me ugly, she is just difficult, because women are".
Still, shouting "I have been friendzoned, please comfort me" on public spaces is not a solution IMO ^^
Whenever someone gives you the impression that they're flirting with you, ask them. Either be smooth and ask them out for a date or just simply ask if they like you like you. You know, COMMUNICATE instead of being pissed about everything. Signals are easy to misread, trust me.