A friend of mine had an anxiety attack and I told her to try and be calm and I remained calm which helped her. From my experience it works but with the depression thing above it seems that a snob would say something like that. Just the difference in how I percieved it. It all just depends on the tone and sincerity...
Yeah it's definitely more about how you say it. They would look at me with an annoyed face basically thinking that I'm overreacting. You def handled the situation well though.
Sheesh, telling someone who's depressed to "Get over it" is like tying a cinder block to someone's foot, throwing them in a lake, and telling them not to drown. It just doesn't work that way.
It depends if it's clinical depression or not. There are plenty of times I've been feeling shitty and one of my friends told me to buck up and it works just fine. It reminds me that I have control over my outlook on things and I adjust accordingly.
The point is that this doesn't work if you are clinically depressed. It more about diagnosis than not telling them to cheer up.
there's being clinically depressed, and then there's whining all the time. if it's the latter, and just "uuugh my life sucks because I didn't get this-" "I can't be bothered to do that" - then I'm glad your mother is telling you to get over it. If it's a medical case, then obviously it's not a good way to approach it. But if you're just whining about everything all the time, then you do need to just get over it- exaggerating how miserable you are for pity just makes everybody around you miserable too. If you're actually ill, then they should support you.
My parents don't believe in mental illnesses such as depression. They simply beilieve that the person is a stuck up,attention seeking whore. When the topic came up they said "it doesn't even exist! Those idiots should grow up! They should be treated normally and told to get over it.." Blah blah blah. I simply said 'mom you had cancer right? What if someone told you to get out of the bed and forget it. Dad you lost a leg. What if someone told you to stand up and walk it off?'
Long story short, I'm staying with my Gran for a few days but I managed to get them to look at it differently. Rant over, carry on.
The point is that this doesn't work if you are clinically depressed. It more about diagnosis than not telling them to cheer up.
Long story short, I'm staying with my Gran for a few days but I managed to get them to look at it differently. Rant over, carry on.