People are assholes.
That's why people abuse other people.
When it comes relationships, one can wonder why the abused doesn't walk away, because they agreed to the relationship and so they can break away from it.
Leaving an abusive relationship is hard and dangerous. A lot of abusers escalate when their partner tries to leave. Victims stay because of fear, shame, isolation, no access to money or other needed resources, and because they fear what the abuser will do to any children without having the partner there to protect them.
After i left my ex-husband, he stalked and harrased both myself and my family. He also put one of my children in the ER because of neglect.
When in an abusive relationship the abuser over time instills the idea that the abused needs them. If you hint at and tell someone something repeatedly over time they begin to believe it themselves, then it becomes Stockholm syndrome. I have a perfect video that I'll link to help show what I mean. It depicts a man being told something repeatedly until he himself believes it.
Abusers also isolate the person they are abusing. They take them away from family and friends and won't let them go out. They limit their acess to money and social situations and Internet use and so this makes the victim think they dont have anyone else and they need the abuser and have no one else so they stay with them.
We already know why the abuser and abusee do what they do and why they do it. The issue is with the fact that abusers and abusees are everyday people and normally ones you won't notice. If you lined up 20 guys in a line up and you didn't know any of them and you were told to pick out the abuser you wouldn't be able too by just looks. It's a hell of a lot easier to help an abusee than to find an abuser.
That's why people abuse other people.
When it comes relationships, one can wonder why the abused doesn't walk away, because they agreed to the relationship and so they can break away from it.
After i left my ex-husband, he stalked and harrased both myself and my family. He also put one of my children in the ER because of neglect.
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https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=lz1qIj3_1U4