So she found out that it's turn off to guys when you are acting like you have really big self-esteem? Because I don't see any logical results, which she can write down after the experiment. I feel like I miss some sort of end of this experiment. Some conclusion.
It's like when someone compliments a guy, "you look handsome today." And he responds "yeah I know", then he's a dick but if a woman does it then it's okay. This "experiment" was stupid and proved nothing besides what we already know.
No no metalman, I think you got it backwards. When a guy gets a compliment and he responds with "Haha I know right" it's like the "alpha self confidence" and it's cool, but when a girl does the same, well, you see it for yourself. I think this experiment proved something, and that is that some guys like to play on girls' insecurities to get into their pants, but yeah you're right that we already knew this.
It's hard to tell via text messages though, because I think that if this was a normal conversation, the further reaction would depend on the girl's body language and voice tone, like if she actually means this seriously and behaves like the world revolves around her or if she says it in a playful tone as if she was just joking around.
I think this is really clever! The point of the experiment was to show that guys really only complimented these girls to (probably) get in their pants, but when the girl didn't immediately go gaga for the guy, and actually showed that they are confident and happy with themselves, the guy was suddenly turned off and couldn't even respect a girl who respects herself.
Because if the girl has low self esteem he can come in to " make her feel good about herself " and she'll be grateful for it and give him whatever. But if she's confident he can't play on her insecurities.
And for those in the comments, I've never seen a guy do this or get backlash for saying he knows he looks good, so what are y'all talking about saying " when a guy does this he's a dick but girls can experiment ???? "
Wat, I don't understand whats going on... Please explain?
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Idk I see the reason for this experiment. I think if the guy really cared for the girl, complimented her, and she responded with that, he'd say something like "well I'm glad you see it too!"
Well, it's probably because you have all these women calling themselves ugly, and whenever someone compliments them they refute it, and in movies the girl feels bad about herself until this guy comes along.
So they kind of try to play on that to get the outcome they think movies have accurately portrayed.
And confidence isn't something to easily fake because sometimes when you try to fake it you get people like these guys calling you narcissistic because you don't think you're ugly.
It doesn't seem to me that any experiment like this could have a good result. If the girl had disagreed with the guy she would have seemed like a. a toad or b. like she's fishing for more compliments.
Does saying "thank you, I know" seem egotistical? Idk, I feel like just because you are self-confident doesn't make that rude or full of it. Bringing it up yourself "I'm so gorgeous,, right?" would be, but if you get a compliment why would that be cocky.
Yes, agreed! And if she was to disagree with the compliment, she'd be fishing for compliments or called an attention whore. People saying she comes off as arrogant are wrong, she's just aware of her attributes and is proud of them, like people should be.
It's hard to tell via text messages though, because I think that if this was a normal conversation, the further reaction would depend on the girl's body language and voice tone, like if she actually means this seriously and behaves like the world revolves around her or if she says it in a playful tone as if she was just joking around.
And for those in the comments, I've never seen a guy do this or get backlash for saying he knows he looks good, so what are y'all talking about saying " when a guy does this he's a dick but girls can experiment ???? "
Glamour has betrayed me....
Whatever happened to "Confidence is Key"
So they kind of try to play on that to get the outcome they think movies have accurately portrayed.
And confidence isn't something to easily fake because sometimes when you try to fake it you get people like these guys calling you narcissistic because you don't think you're ugly.