I think this generation has become so obsessed with acquiring affection from each other, or a single person, that they've forgotten that love comes in different forms. Your family and friends can love you just as much as your intended SO (perhaps not in the same ways though). Just appreciate the love you already have in your life. When you learn to be happy with what you have, life will reward you with more.
On the one hand, I agree completely with you.
On the other;
Yes, it's this generation. But affection isn't all we crave. It that you're actually looked after and cared for, knowing that there is someone by your side who is not obligated to be there, such as a family member. This is why I value my friends so much, because they care for me. And I hate the way I act with other people, I always feel needy and clingy and it's stupid. But the people who truly care, stay anyway. My point is, it's not only affection we crave. It's acceptance.
Why can't people just get along and love each other is it so hard. People are so mean and rude to each other that being nice is often mistaken for flirting.
"Why do people like violence, because it feels good. Take away the feeling and the act becomes hollow"-Alan Turing "The Imitation Game"
My grandfather died on December 31, 2014. I'm having a hard time dealing with it, because it's just so sudden and confusing. It's like I can't comprehend it. He and my grandmother adopted us because of family issues, so I've lived here at their house most of my life. Every time I look at his chair, I get extremely confused. How could he have passed away in a matter of seconds? So quickly? I didn't ever think I would have this issue: not understanding death. It's hard to put into words, but, mostly, I'm just confused. I sit with my grandmother every night instead of staying in my room like before. I don't want her to be alone, especially on Valentine's.
I know how it feels.... Someone I loved very much was removed from his home and ended up killing himself, and Valentines kinda feels all horrible and icky to me. But I try not to be a fun sponge and do cheer on people who are happy and in love <3
Three things:
1. Tell everyone this Valentine's Day that you love them, pretend like everyone is on their last leg and immediate suicide/other death is probable - if not inevitable - for all of them. (Then try to prevent it.) Be wary of everyone's feelings.
2. Remember that our generation is full of nomads that want love, and you're "lonely" along with the majority of people out there. No one needs to buy into the Hallmark vision of love. Being with friends and family is enough.
3. Remember that if you want some love, you've gotta give it. Stick your neck out there. If there's someone you love, just tell them. What's the worst that could happen? If you're looking for a date, for goodness sake, just ask them. They'll probably say yes. This goes for a friendship level too. If you appreciate your friends/family, tell them!!!
As someone who has lost people one to me I tottaly agree but I don't think we should be too hard on the people who complain about being alone on valentines day, for them maybe it's just a way of trying to find someone who feels the same way, in the past I hated valentines day because of the hallmark vision of love a day the fact that I had few friends and a girls wouldn't even give me the time of day if I asked, I was ignored and put down and bullied and frankly depressed but I held myself together and now I have someone who's more important to me than anything unfortunately we don't get to spend vday together however knowing someone is there for you and loves you is truly what it's about, and weather that's your girlfriend or boyfriend or your friends and family remember you are loved no matter what!
Who the hell do you think you are telling someone who is obviously hurting to get over it. I'm sorry if you think that their pain doesn't match yours but they are still in pain regardless and deserve your respect.
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Thank you, texasranger (sorry totally not yelling at you - now that I posted that comment I thought it looked like I aimed it at you and I did not - just at that guest!)
If we're sharing stories of pain. My friends family was bound in their own home and executed by a man who wanted to get back at his wife. She lost her whole family. And It really disgusts me that someone would deny someone the chance to talk about their feelings. Its sick immature and inhuman
On the other;
Yes, it's this generation. But affection isn't all we crave. It that you're actually looked after and cared for, knowing that there is someone by your side who is not obligated to be there, such as a family member. This is why I value my friends so much, because they care for me. And I hate the way I act with other people, I always feel needy and clingy and it's stupid. But the people who truly care, stay anyway. My point is, it's not only affection we crave. It's acceptance.
At least, that's what I've always intended to say...
"Why do people like violence, because it feels good. Take away the feeling and the act becomes hollow"-Alan Turing "The Imitation Game"
1. Tell everyone this Valentine's Day that you love them, pretend like everyone is on their last leg and immediate suicide/other death is probable - if not inevitable - for all of them. (Then try to prevent it.) Be wary of everyone's feelings.
2. Remember that our generation is full of nomads that want love, and you're "lonely" along with the majority of people out there. No one needs to buy into the Hallmark vision of love. Being with friends and family is enough.
3. Remember that if you want some love, you've gotta give it. Stick your neck out there. If there's someone you love, just tell them. What's the worst that could happen? If you're looking for a date, for goodness sake, just ask them. They'll probably say yes. This goes for a friendship level too. If you appreciate your friends/family, tell them!!!