I guess this his how it will go down

I'm really curious (because I've never read the book but my sister has and said it didnt happen) but when does he ignore the safe word? I know at the end of the first book she forgets to use it but when does she actually say it and he carries on?

Oh my God! It's fiction people. Fiction! As in not real. Christ.

This is true. Its not promoting rape or abuse. Its showing her story through her perspective.

And although there may be rape/abuse in it, the book wasn't planned to promote it and say it's ok. Its a book of fiction.

What story? The whole thing started off as a Twilight fanfiction.

Of course the book was not written with the intention of promoting abuse. However, it does contain abuse that is passed off as BDSM. So when women who are being abused by their men read the book or see the movie or hear about it in the media, they think: "Oh, he's not abusing me. It's just kinky. This is what other women want. I'm lucky to have my own Christian Grey. " And then they stay in abusive situations and that's horrible. And it's not entirely the book's fault; every time the media plays it off as just kinky or erotica instead of highlighting the questionable aspects, it contributes to the idea that it's just a harmless bit of fiction. People could use it to start normalizing abusive behavior, so it's not just a book.