Ah I hate this cause I want to be the kh fanboy that I am, but this is such a serious matter. I hope the man can take solace in the fact that though he may not be able to bring his son back, he's helping many other family's keep there children in loving arms.
I've gone through hard times in my life. Some of which I just wanted to end it all. Then, I got a dog... and when those thoughts came I would consider "who will care for my dog"? Silly as that is, now aware of being needed has helped me through those. And yet, as I look back, I realize that as horrible as those moments were at the time, they ended. It's still just me and the dog, but she loves me and needs me. The feeling is mutual.
I wish I could help some who hurt so bad as to give it all away that there is someone, some being, who needs "you" to be there for them. Never give up on them. Hugs.
- dang, I wanted to laugh too.
Show me someone who doesn't get vengeful after being abused and I'll show you someone who is trying to deny their own feelings of hate because they really want to be a good person.
Well, its a fairly subjective topic, and your making a fairly a hard, absolute statement about it. The two possibilities from my perspective are either you have a lot of experience with people who have been abused, and have a lot of at least anecdotal experience that has given you a strong opinion on the matter, or you yourself have been abused and are projecting your opinion on the matter based on your personal experience onto people in general. To add to that I never said anything about abuse, and I can't see any reason to bringing it up other than a sort of Freudian slip. This, combined with the fact that any given random person on the internet likely isn't in contact with a lot of people who have been abused(specifically in a context in which these abused people would speak to the random person about their abuse) leads me to infer a relatively strong possibility that you are projecting.
I'm not saying you are, but your post definitely has that ring to it.
Both are wrong; I have no real experience with abuse. TBH, I'm kinda disappointed that I've never even been bullied because I feel like I need that experience of not being appreciated in order to better appreciate those who truly aren't.
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Back on topic, I was having a long debate with some classmates as to human nature and I concluded that people don't like to take crap laying down. This lead me to conclude that if someone were to get crap, a reasonable person would suck it up but that's a little less crap they can take from that person. Habitual abuse will result in this deep feeling of resentment that would probably manifest itself in either violent vengeance or self-hated; it takes a lot of self control to take that anger and direct it positively.
This I know as fact because the small things that piss me off (dental retainers, stuff not working right) give me this negative energy that can be rid of only by taking time off. I cannot direct this energy towards something productive like homework, it has to go towards something entirely useless.
The problem is your using your own subjective experience to come to a conclusion you define as a fact. You can't know that everyone else would react the same way you do, so you can't make judgements about the human mind based on subjective experience alone.
I myself have never been able to differentiate any sort of "positive" or "negative"energy in my life. There is only energization and... whatever you'd call the opposite of that...that sort of, deflated, physically depressed feeling. I've always been able to direct any energy to whatever task I want. Sometimes that's beating on something, but I've always had the ability to choose, though sometimes it has taken some degree of effort to choose a more amicable task.
If your statement was based on what you say it is then we simply have a difference of opinion that isn't likely to be resolved here.
Have you never felt the pissed off energy that you want to do something absolutely useless and unproductive as well as that great excited energy you get when you're going to your favorite restaurant/theme park/place/whatever?
It's always the same energy, just in a different mindset. If I can change my focus to something productive, it doesn't matter what emotion produced the energy, I can use it positively. The only way this doesn't work is if I can't get my mind off of what negative situation produced the energy/motivation. From my experience energy/motivation doesn't have any sort of polarity, its all dependent on my state of mind.
I wish I could help some who hurt so bad as to give it all away that there is someone, some being, who needs "you" to be there for them. Never give up on them. Hugs.
- dang, I wanted to laugh too.
Also, what if your not a vengeful person?
I'm not saying you are, but your post definitely has that ring to it.
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Back on topic, I was having a long debate with some classmates as to human nature and I concluded that people don't like to take crap laying down. This lead me to conclude that if someone were to get crap, a reasonable person would suck it up but that's a little less crap they can take from that person. Habitual abuse will result in this deep feeling of resentment that would probably manifest itself in either violent vengeance or self-hated; it takes a lot of self control to take that anger and direct it positively.
I myself have never been able to differentiate any sort of "positive" or "negative"energy in my life. There is only energization and... whatever you'd call the opposite of that...that sort of, deflated, physically depressed feeling. I've always been able to direct any energy to whatever task I want. Sometimes that's beating on something, but I've always had the ability to choose, though sometimes it has taken some degree of effort to choose a more amicable task.
If your statement was based on what you say it is then we simply have a difference of opinion that isn't likely to be resolved here.