Women are allowed to say no, but when men say no, we end up on the receiving end of a spoiled brat temper tantrum.
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· 8 years ago
Well, that sucks. I mean... I would never throw a little hissy fit because I was told no, but guys basically do the same thing. Not quite to the girls face, but turnaround and go online and make all these things about being friend zoned.
That's fine that she doesn't want to be his GF, and in this case the girl isn't taking advantage of him. But with a lot of friendzoned guys, the girl enjoys the one-way-street of the guy buying her things, giving her back rubs, him always listening to her yack on and on about things that only interest girls. So,she takes all the benefits a guy normally gives to a GF without any reciprocal attention or feelings or consideration.
Nobody's saying that a guy gets to "claim" a girl, but a girl shouldn't expect to be treated as a GF without anyhting going the other way besides "he's my best guy friend" kind of thing. Don't lead on some guy with the hope that if he just did that grand romantic gesture you'd see him as BF material.
As long as I'm ranting, Guys: sack up and don't be saps when the girl clearly isn't interested in you as BF.
Men, if you're in the friendzone, and you continue the friendship, you're attracted to a plastic bitch. Grow a backbone and kick yourself in the nuts so you can think clearly for three minutes. Go to the library and find the girl that doesn't wear makeup, who looks at you with the light of clear intelligence, and get to know her. I have had eleven years of almost daily romance because I married my camping buddy that long ago. If you realize that real friendship (not friendzone hope slavery) is the basis of lifelong passion, you just may actually get it. Fellow men, please get some dignity and stop embarassing our gender because you think an exposed tan line is the definitive factor that makes love at first sight a reality. It's pathetic.
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· 8 years ago
So you're saying that guys shouldn't stay friends with girls after being rejected, simply because THE GIRL DOES NOT WANT A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM. Would you rather the girl have been nice and said yes, where you're then stuck in a fake relationship? Because that sounds pretty horrible to me.
Your socialization is getting in the way of your literacy
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· 8 years ago
From what I took out of what I read, you're saying that just because a girl rejects you, she is a plastic bitch and you shouldn't stay with her as a friend.
I meant than men in western society are in the habit of seeing rejection as a deferred "yes". The "friendzone" phenomenon is very difficult for guys. If a fellah asks for a romantic relationship, it changes pretty permanently the dynamic between the two individuals. When the girl lets the male hang around her in basically the same friendship relationship
...they had before, it becomes toxic. She is responsible for distancing herself from him, or it becomes a relation ship of take but no give. And of course the man needs to develop enough dignity to move on to greener pastures and giver her some space.
Haha I like you, Guest. Anyways, that isn't always the case. Sometimes after one or the other gets rejected, it'll further their friendship because they know where both stand in thoughts to one another.
Nobody's saying that a guy gets to "claim" a girl, but a girl shouldn't expect to be treated as a GF without anyhting going the other way besides "he's my best guy friend" kind of thing. Don't lead on some guy with the hope that if he just did that grand romantic gesture you'd see him as BF material.
As long as I'm ranting, Guys: sack up and don't be saps when the girl clearly isn't interested in you as BF.