That's why I officially severed all ties with my parents as soon as i possibly could (mentally at nine, and legally at 18) I haven't seen or spoke to them in over a decade and really plan on paying a midnight bathroom visit to their graves eventually. My grandfather was 3000x more of a parent that's either of my parents.
Well, My father wasn't abusive, and wasn't gone but still. Indifference in his eyes, no love at all egotism and yelling and stuff, and I've stopped talking with him 3 years ago, and this 3 years was the best years in my life...
And I truly believe, that without that dad I could've grow less stressed and more sane...
Some of the stuff I dealt with would drive a weaker man to suicide but I vowed to myself and my grandfather that I would rise above them and make every day I live after that a middle finger in their faces. Once I told my grandfather what was going on he disowned my dad and left everything he owned to me including the farm I own now (which my father wanted to sell so he could bathe in booze until he died!) last I checked which was when I left they where still living in a pest infested rundown shack, good riddance to them though let the rats grow fat on them!
Okay I'm your new dad now for anyone who had either a shitty or non existent dad. Lemme make some really bad jokes and start projects I'll never finish.
And I truly believe, that without that dad I could've grow less stressed and more sane...