If it isn't deserved, one does not need to give forgiveness to achieve peace. You may simply reach a state of mind and personal growth where that person and their wrongs simply just don't bother you anymore. You can grow past the point where they and what they did just don't matter anymore
Funny this is illustrated with Rafiki, I seem to recall that his point was to not dwell on the pain of the past and had nothing to do with forgiving.
"You may simply reach a state of mind and personal growth where that person and their wrongs simply just don't bother you anymore."
That's pretty much the dictionary definition of forgiveness.
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· 8 years ago
I think forgiving as in not holding grudges, that really helps with not to dwell on the pain of past
Maybe... but,
I will never forgive my ex for being emotionally abusive.
I will never forgive my ex for manipulating my life to suit her psychosis.
I will never forgive her infidelity that I had to learn about by taking her to the hospital for complications and miscarriage in the middle of the night.
I am not naturally a vindictive person, but hope she burns in hell for it.
I will however choose to not let it dominate my life. It is something that I work very, very hard coming to terms with. I often tell myself that other women aren't my ex, she is only one person, one failure of a person that isn't indicative of the gender.
It's why I have little interest in companionship. Those feelings were burned right the fuck out of me and I need to learn what is and isn't true of everything that was said before I tread that path again.
Funny this is illustrated with Rafiki, I seem to recall that his point was to not dwell on the pain of the past and had nothing to do with forgiving.
That's pretty much the dictionary definition of forgiveness.
I will never forgive my ex for being emotionally abusive.
I will never forgive my ex for manipulating my life to suit her psychosis.
I will never forgive her infidelity that I had to learn about by taking her to the hospital for complications and miscarriage in the middle of the night.
I am not naturally a vindictive person, but hope she burns in hell for it.
I will however choose to not let it dominate my life. It is something that I work very, very hard coming to terms with. I often tell myself that other women aren't my ex, she is only one person, one failure of a person that isn't indicative of the gender.
It's why I have little interest in companionship. Those feelings were burned right the fuck out of me and I need to learn what is and isn't true of everything that was said before I tread that path again.
Come to terms and move on? Yes.
Forgive? Never.
Probably.