Fathers rights

There are more rapists who have walked free than men who have been falsely accused. I think falsely accusing someone should be a criminal offense with jail time because it makes it that much harder for actual victims to go through the justice system. Rape or accusing someone of it will ruin someone's life.

There's a difference between lying to the court and not being able to provide enough proof for conviction. Lying about any crime should be met with being punished as if you had committed the crime AND the penalty for lying (whatever that is, five thousand dollars or something small in comparison to something like murder or rape).

They don't, fathers also get custody. In many cases where the mother hets custody, the father doesn't request it. In the rest, the question is what's best for the child, not the pride of the parents. The biggest thing judges take into account is who is the primary caregiver. This isn't just who makes the best money and provides best, it's who does the feeding, washing, babysitting, homework help, disciplining, etc. In the majority of cases where both parents are stable, this is still the mother even if she works. The second thing they look at is bonding. The younger the child, the more reliant emotiinally on the mother in a lot of cases. Older kids can lean more toward the father. Then comes a bunch of other factors, but if neither parent is abusive the courts are looking at the child's prime reliance and stage of developement, not choosing which parent they like better.

Thank you for the explanation. That helps. I was just thinking that when the father actually DOES want custody, they still kind of give priority to the mother. Do you think that's the case?

It is and it isn't. A few days back, for instance, there's a Puffin meme about it being okay for men to be stay at home dads. And there's this prevalent stigma that makes a lot of otherwise perfect fathers feel like their priority is to bring home income and that they shouldn't be primary caregivers. They love their kids, they'd be brilliant custodial parents, but if it comes to a divorce the court doesn't deal in "potential." They look at who has actively given care and who the child relies on most for its emotional wellbeing, not just financial. Imagine a job with two candidates: they both have the same degree and skills and both want the job. But one has five years experience in this job, the other's experience is on something similar but not quite it. The job goes to the experience, even if both are capable. That's why it's important to encourage fathers to take active roles in all their children's care, without stigmatizing it. To give them an equal chance when it comes to this.

Which there really should be. A newborn is so much work, there's a reason it takes two parents! And it's better for kids to have both parents around at such a young age.

That is so true!
I've only known one guy who got paternity leave, and he only got two weeks. He was a cop.

My band director just had his second kid, and he's only getting a week of paternity. On the other hand, my history teacher last year took like three months of paternity leave after his first kid.

Yes.

There's also a guy who has to pay child support from a kid that resulted from him being raped.

The wage gap has been debunked numerous times, guest. If you want to find out what the gap is really like, LOOK IT UP.

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