Nursing homes are fucked up. Your parents put up with your shit for 18 years, putting their life on the back burner for you, then you grow up and suddenly when your parents are old and senile they're 'annoying' and 'getting in the way of your life', so you dump them off like garbage that has served its purpose in some sad home of other abandoned people, and you visit them like once a month and eventually forget them. It's like a parent putting a three year old in an orphanage because they threw a temper tantrum at the store and it was 'embarassing'.
Have you ever been around someone with dementia or Alzheimer? That type of an code system is probably for a memory unit. It not that they are annoying or in your way. its they need constant, round the clock supervision, often requiring medical care. Often balance is also impaired so it is a physically demanding job that not everyone can handle.
I've done some work in nursing homes and I can tell you that everyone I met was so happy to be there because they were able to let go of a lot of their worries. Like one woman wrote frequent letters to friends, and when she was living with her daughter she could never remember if she had sent the letters or not, but the nursing home she lives in now keeps track for her and helps her keep up. Maybe things are different in your country, but I've never met a patient who was just "dumped" in a nursing home.
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