Yeah. I feel like the legal system is a little behind and unbalanced On parental divorce rights. In a time where more father's are staying home with kids while their wives have a career, and are actively taking a bigger role in their children's lives; the balance of parental rights just isn't up to date. And if those dads love their kids like I love my daughter, this makes me really sad for them.
I don't know about anywhere else, but in the US judges usually give custody rights to the main caregiver. Meaning whoever feeds/bathes/helps with homework, spends the most time with them, etc. If that's the dad, they do get custody. I know two men who have.
When my parents divorced it took a long multiple court dates for the state to decide who to give custody to. My father eventually won custody but the state was ready to give custody to my mother from the start. My father fought long and hard for our custody. Don't give me that bullshit when i had to live through and experience what these men are protesting.
So you had a sucky experience. That's not everyone. Like I said, I personally know two fathers who have full custody, and one gets child support. Your father having problems getting custody doesn't mean every father does.
A large and significant portion do have issue. Just because you know two father's who received custody doesn't dismiss those who don't get custody of aren't allowed to see there own children but on few occasions.
95% of men don't get custody of their children
The system is completely rigged for the benefit of women...
And almost zero benefit for men
Women are not helpless as they were 15 -20 years ago... It's time to give equal rights AND RESPONSABILITIES
For men and women
Specially on children ,and divorce fairness rules...
STOP HAVING TWO SETS OF RULES
STOP THE DOUBLE STANDARDS
Luckily even though my mom got custody, she was decent enough to let me see my father, and he see me, whenever we wanted. That's the way it should be instead of "every other weekend and two weeks in summer."
There are fathers who don't even want to be bothered with their kids, I know because my 2 kids only have me (which is totally fine with me of course) so these guys fighting to see their kids is a noble cause, it shows responsibility and concern, a man can be there physically even though they can't do it financially because if one parent can't do it the other has to regardless, plus kids are the most precious thing in the world and should have the luxury of having both parents THESE GUYS ARE AWESOME
Makes me so mad that dad's don't get rights, I understand the need for rules and restrictions with some who are unstable but if the man wants to be there and is not a psychopath then he should be allowed to see his children.
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If the ex-husband doesn't take care of his ex-wife, then social programs will have to; the courts are putting the burden on one taxpayer instead of many. Why women can't take of themselves after a marriage is still a mystery to me, but hey, some are more equal than others.
I'm not sure you got the point of this post. It's not about spousal support or child support for that matter it's the fact that many father's who aren't custodial parents don't have many rights when it comes to their children.
The system is completely rigged for the benefit of women...
And almost zero benefit for men
Women are not helpless as they were 15 -20 years ago... It's time to give equal rights AND RESPONSABILITIES
For men and women
Specially on children ,and divorce fairness rules...
STOP HAVING TWO SETS OF RULES
STOP THE DOUBLE STANDARDS