@title..Really? I mean I've met a few parents like that. My mom never encouraged any hobby of mine...but I know a lot of parents who are genuinely interested in what their kids want to do.
Same. My mom constantly screamed, belittled us and called us stupid then would turn around and act confused as to why we didnt have any confidence to get out and talk to people. Took us years to kind of overcome the damage she caused. My brother's had the hardest time.
My mom says she doesn't want any gifts but gets all passive aggressive when I do as she says. She also hits me on the head if I spell something wrong. She hates my boyfriend and wants me to just be friends even though he's the best emotional support I have. She would always scream and force me to do things I don't want to do even if they were my hobbies or passion. Forcing a kid to practice their hobby makes it not become a hobby anymore. For a long time I stopped singing cause I grew to hate it...
My parents tried to make me play softball. I went two practices before I quit because I sucked at softball
(and to be fair, they never told me "you just gotta practice!" after that; they saw that I just sucked, so they let me quit)
My parents support the hobbies I display, but I can tell they're not to particularly happy about them.
And I really hate upsetting those I care about. So when I see they don't like it, I stop doing it. Because I want them to be happy.
And I'm caught in that zone, where I care for the feeling of my family and friend more than I care for my own being.
So I'm kinda suffering a bit.
For the longest time I didn't want children because I thought I was incapable of not fucking them up... now I want children just so I can make them the happiest, confident creatures.
(and to be fair, they never told me "you just gotta practice!" after that; they saw that I just sucked, so they let me quit)
And I really hate upsetting those I care about. So when I see they don't like it, I stop doing it. Because I want them to be happy.
And I'm caught in that zone, where I care for the feeling of my family and friend more than I care for my own being.
So I'm kinda suffering a bit.