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guest_
· 6 years ago
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It's rarely as black and white as being treated well or like trash. Usually it is somewhere between with some periods being better than others. What we can forgive depends on us, them, and circumstances. You should value yourself and not stay with someone who treats you as worthless, but all partners will falter in some way given time, even if that is taking a bad day/time out on us, or taking us for granted after a long time together. How we handle it, wether we communicate our stance and decide to forgive and work through it, or wether we walk away depends on our own views of life and value. My rule is generallly that under the right circumstances most things can be forgiven once- twice (or more depending) is not an accident or mistake to be forgiven but a pattern. You don't forgive patterns you recognize them and act assuming that is part of who they are.
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skylermarie
· 6 years ago
I agree on some levels, but I don't think ideals like that should tie you down in a relationship with a partner who is unfaithful, abusive, or makes you hate yourself. Sometimes, you just have to come first.
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mrdad01
· 6 years ago
If they make you feel scared to go home or be alone with them it's time to either pack a bag or kick them out, if they leave you with a new injury a week be it physical or otherwise, leave or kick. if simple things like shaving or showering get you accused of cheating (when they know you won't) its time to go, if they search your cell phone that has no service because you can't pay the bill, leave!
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guest_
· 6 years ago
Your first responsibility is to yourself. You are the one thing you will always have. You are the one common thread in all your relationships of which you can have many. If you aren't healthy no relationship you have can be healthy, so while you sometimes need to put the needs of another before you, you must always protect and foster your own well being. My overarching point was that it's not black and white. You need to do what's best for you. If you two can't reach communication, if you both aren't willing to work through a problem, you're relationship is already doomed and leaving saves both people time and hurt. No one can or should have to "fix" another person. Their issues are theirs, but being together means dealing with those. Some problems can't be worked out, when your fundamental well being is in danger you must protect it. If they don't care enough to protect yours they are a loser, and if they can't give you that one thing nothing else in your relationship matters.
