It's a burden. Every decision I make, every fuck up I do, another person will bear the burnt. Also, marriage or long-term relationships limit life's chances and opportunities, I will no longer have the free will to make choices because I'll be forced to think about someone else I'm tied to. All of this is my personal opinion, but this is the reason I never had a relationship and hope that I will never have one.
Plus, the fear that your wrong about this. That you will miss some opportunity because of them, and it will ultimately ruin your life.
Or perhaps worse, nothing so drastic. You will always love them but over time the little things that you used to think were cute or annoying become obnoxious and grating. Gestures of love become less frequent, and more empty, and you spend the rest of your life in a quiet marriage to someone you stopped wanting to be will years ago, but never enough to go through a divorce, so you both just pretend like everything is fine because it's easier than facing the reality that this was not in fact the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with.
And that's besides just the basic fear that you'll fail. That you will drag your partner down or hold them back. That your mistakes will ruin there life and maybe, for some of us, the idea that we don't deserve them meaning that we will never be allowed to stay with them and be happy.
It's complicated.
Or perhaps worse, nothing so drastic. You will always love them but over time the little things that you used to think were cute or annoying become obnoxious and grating. Gestures of love become less frequent, and more empty, and you spend the rest of your life in a quiet marriage to someone you stopped wanting to be will years ago, but never enough to go through a divorce, so you both just pretend like everything is fine because it's easier than facing the reality that this was not in fact the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with.
And that's besides just the basic fear that you'll fail. That you will drag your partner down or hold them back. That your mistakes will ruin there life and maybe, for some of us, the idea that we don't deserve them meaning that we will never be allowed to stay with them and be happy.
It's complicated.