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mrdad01
· 6 years ago
Ha, been there before.
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deleted
· 6 years ago
Dude, your story was sad af.
mrdad01
· 6 years ago
I'm not lying when I say I've filled up a 250 page notebook with everything she did to me and both her kids (I don't mention her older kid much as he was from another man, however at 12 years old he's still getting therapy for his abuses over 6+years ago) I have my reasons for not wanting to risk a repeat experience by seeking another relationship, besides just wanting to keep my kid safe from harm.
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popsy
· 6 years ago
To hell with abusers. Mentally destroying someone is messed up. I hate seeing someone get isolated from loved ones. I think everyone is guilty of saying stupid shit or having it misinterpreted ,but the fuckwads that do it deliberately ruin the person.
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maebubbles
· 6 years ago
First husband didn’t hit me. But he did everything else including just the threat of physical violence. Second husband did hit but also did every single thing on this list. Third husband is amazing and has never raised his hand to me, has never made me feel less than, and is a weird gentleman. Sometimes life sucks but if we can get ourselves out of the situation and find our own worth, it’s easier to find real happiness. <3
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popsy
· 6 years ago
You went threw hell to find heaven. I'm glad it worked out in the end but you shouldn't have had to go down that road. I have , in my past, just bailed if I thought things were getting out of control. Back then, I probably confused a fair point in an augment as the girl being insane with all that youthful wisdom I seemed to have misplaced through out the years. I am glad you got a good one now.
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xdmaniac
· 6 years ago
Maybe she doesn't hit ya, but she lies about everything, often for no reason and will stick to a lie even when proof is in her face, specifically to confuse you and sow self-doubt so she can get away with whatever she wants.
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annoyingnerd
· 6 years ago
I have a distant uncle who married a woman because she bought poison and threatened to drink it if he broke up with her
xdmaniac
· 6 years ago
ex o mine would do stuff that made it seem like she was trying to drive me off, I'd ask her if she wanted to leave and she would tell people that i wanted to leave. shits fucked. I think humans are just bad. There should be a law against em
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teresammm
· 6 years ago
Sending this to a recently divorced friend. And she hit him too.
carne_asada
· 6 years ago
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However, verbal abuse is a lot easier to deal with. Often times, the abuser is oblivious to thr fact that they are abusing. The best solution is to have an honest relationship where you two feel comfortable talking to each other
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celticrose
· 6 years ago
Systematic verbal and psychological abuse can have just as harmful and long term, if not longer reaching, trauma as physical abuse, and can often lead to the victim turning either to self harm or another abusive relationship even if they manage to escape that one.
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carne_asada
· 6 years ago
No no no I agree completely. I’m just saying a way to avoid verbal abuse is to make sure you both are honest and feel comfortable talking to each other about something you don’t feel comfortable with or if you feel abused. It doesn’t always work, but just a thought
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moon
· 6 years ago
This post isn't just about verbal abuse, it's about coercive control which entrapts people in relationships and whittles them down until they can't remember who they are anymore. The very nature of coercive control makes it hard to get out of or recognise that it's happening before it's too late.
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mrdad01
· 6 years ago
I've suffered all kinds of abuses including being stabbed and cut up by someone that 'loved' me, the emotional scars are no less real or painful than a knife in the shoulder!
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popsy
· 6 years ago
Damn
