If someone wants you to change for marriage, then you shouldn't marry them. Marriage should be a mostly irrelevant event that is only making official what already exists.
Agreed. Not only that but no one should try to make you something you aren't. This will only suppress who you truly are untill it comes boiling to thhe surface.
Smoking and drinking and going to clubs shouldn't be things that define who you are. They're unhealthy addictions and bad habits that should be overcome so if he's willing to quit she's doing him a favor, although I don't like the way she's saying it as if its a command.
Trying to help your beloved deal with a harmful issue is different than demanding they leave behind aspects of their life that they enjoy. There is nothing to indicate that these habits are overwhelming or are not being done in moderation.
Actually, her last question asking him " what else " he can leave to be with her seems more like she's trying to mold him than help him with an addiction
It's not my place to pass judgment on if going clubbing is ok or smoking pr anything else for that matter. If you don't want to be in a party atmosphere then by all mrans don't. While you are at it don't get with someone that does those things and try to change them. Just like she said, "What else can we change?" And this has nothing to do with being married and working to keep a happy marriage by compromising! Give and take is in every relashonship, even just friends need to compromise. And I'm sorry but smoking, and going to clubs might be this guys absolute favorite thing. How would you know?
"No u."