I don't know where anyone is finding fat shame anymore. All I ever here is encouragement. It's not ok to make fun of anyone for how they look, but it's also not ok to be unhealthy because of your weight. I don't agree with it being normalized and applauded to be fat.
Having a pooch isn’t necessarily being unhealthy fat. Unless you are genetically gifted most people who fall in “healthy” body fat ranges can have a pooch, and several women I know who sit at below “average” range due to extreme workouts have pooches from how their bodies changed in pregnancy. For most people, especially those who are older, it’s is extraordinarily difficult to maintain a “flat” stomach and requires drastic lifestyle limitations. For some it’s easy of course, that’s just how genetics work.
Perhaps. Just as the composition and proportions that people find attractive vary greatly, so too do the words they choose to ascribe to the particulars of a persons apearance. What to one is a pooch, may be another fat roll, or another’s beer belly, or another’s squishy tummy, or another’s just regular stomach. Likewise what is considered large aesthetically in anatomy is generally subjective. So as you wish to call it, and is accepted by those being so called, do not allow my humble definitions to impose upon your personal perceptions.
Don't worry I won't. I am not talking about what is aesthetically pleasing or the whole concept of beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I'm concerned with what is healthy for people from a doctor's opinion.
Aw heck. A small percentage of people I know are models or similar, or look like it- and it’s usually the opposite. They’re lean and mean single, but once they’re happy in life and a relationship they slip a little. A few people I know maintain after and good for them. But to do so is often a borderline unhealthy obsession with underlying issues such as body dysmorphia, self esteem issues, narcissism, extreme competitiveness, need for control, self validation issues, etc. I’m not saying anyone looking their best is a bag of issues- but I’m saying that there’s a balance between physical and mental health. You choose the life you want to live and find the balance that works for you.
if those two blobs up top are titties, I dont care one bit
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Yeah, has nothing to do with your shitty personality, inability to talk to people, or lack of any desire to better yourself and find someone worth your time.
Nope. Totally your slightly chubby belly. No man could ever love you, you fat swine. How dare you even think about love when you're so mildly overweight. What are you, stupid?
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I feel like this hate is projected towards every meme about depression.
A shade of truth anyway. That’s the falacy of “hard truth,” the idea that it is the only explaination, or that because it applies in ones own scope of experience that it applies universally. All or some of these things could be true in this case, or they could be false. In general there won’t be any single thing that makes a person have trouble finding a relationship. Telling someone the seemingly self evident solution to their lack of a relationship is a bit ignorant itself isn’t it? If they had the same experience and knowledge base as you to know that they likely wouldn’t be in that situation would they? If they have a “shitty personality” how would they be able to tell on their own let alone correct “shitty personality?” And by this same logic wouldn’t it be just as “stupid” to assume that the reason you’re single is your “shitty personality” or that anything something didn’t go your way socially you must have a “shitty personality?” The logic doesn’t hold up universally.
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1. Tim got a bad grade. Is Tim lazy? People can get bad grades if they are disorganized and lazy. They can also have learning disabilities, not understand, etc. All are true but not all apply to Tim.
2. Jane falls in the water and is drowning. Jeff asks: “what are you, stupid? Just swim.” Is Jane stupid for not knowing how to swim? Ill prepared perhaps- ignorant maybe, or possibly never got a chance to learn. Jeff can see Jane is struggling. If Jane knew how to swim- wouldn’t she be swimming? Asking Jane if she’s stupid for not swimming could be called stupid- as it is obvious she can’t swim.
I think that part of the trouble I have with this meme is that a lot of times really nice girls settlemfor really terrible boyfriends because they think they have a terrible flaw, but it's just being human and we have have something. or really just have more than one of them. I'm not saying you shouldn't try to be in better shape for being healthier or improve for sports, even if you just want to Be more attractive that's fine… You can work on it. But until that happens, and even if it doesn't, you are worthwhile and deserve something better than a man who treats you poorly just because you feel you're not "competitive" with others.
There's a lot beautiful women that get too self conscious and worry about there appearance. I think tv,movies,the magazines that they read beat it into there head that they have to look a certain way. A girl can be drop dead gorgeous without makeup and refuse to go out until she does herself up. My wife is still stunningly beautiful without makeup, but my mother-in-law , constantly ragged on her about having to be perfect at all times and always critisized her to the point of giving her a complex. Still to this day, 30 years later, she still thinks that no matter what , she doesn't look good enough and thinks that I am lying when I compliment her.
Nope. Totally your slightly chubby belly. No man could ever love you, you fat swine. How dare you even think about love when you're so mildly overweight. What are you, stupid?
1. Tim got a bad grade. Is Tim lazy? People can get bad grades if they are disorganized and lazy. They can also have learning disabilities, not understand, etc. All are true but not all apply to Tim.
2. Jane falls in the water and is drowning. Jeff asks: “what are you, stupid? Just swim.” Is Jane stupid for not knowing how to swim? Ill prepared perhaps- ignorant maybe, or possibly never got a chance to learn. Jeff can see Jane is struggling. If Jane knew how to swim- wouldn’t she be swimming? Asking Jane if she’s stupid for not swimming could be called stupid- as it is obvious she can’t swim.