Girls have been told to love themselves, it applies to you too guys. Love your tummies, your acne, your hair - embrace it all! It's what makes you you and someone is going to absolutely adore you and love you for it one day. Don't change to impress that person you like, if they are too shallow to not like you because you're not ripped like the Hulk or have a thin beard, then they don't deserve to be loved by you.
It’s a sort of combination in my mind. Someone who truly loves you will love you for who you are. That said the right partner should motivate you to WANT to improve. We are all awesome people in some ways or others- but we can all also improve in some ways or others. The other component is that relationships aren’t just fantasies. They exist in reality. Love is often a major component but so is life. You can love someone dearly but not want to or be able to be with them if the conditions aren’t right. In those cases you aren’t being asked to change for them- you’re being given a choice if your goals, desires, and priorities line up- and if not it is best you separate and seek happiness elsewhere as you aren’t compatible. There’s strong distinctions between positive and negative change, and change you make willingly or as a compromise to make things work versus unilateral demands which one goes along with out of codependency, lack of self value, or fear
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· 6 years ago
@sm19 thank you so much for saying that! I have cellulite near my stomach, underarms and on my butt cheeks and I have gotten fat lately because of the workload of academics and it makes me feel really down about myself. I am really body conscious. Everything is fine when I don't remember those things are there but, the moment I see them I start feeling down.
The people would also drop such stingy remarks dipped in honey while talking about me. I don't want to feel this way but, the people around me have so many expectations that, it does make me feel that way.
My husband has a tummy and stretchmarks all over him, even some acne on his upper back when his immunity is down. I love EVERY SINGLE INCH of him. Don't get discouraged you beautiful bastards.
The people would also drop such stingy remarks dipped in honey while talking about me. I don't want to feel this way but, the people around me have so many expectations that, it does make me feel that way.