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parisqeen
· 5 years ago
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That's just mean man
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sablad
· 5 years ago
"Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks" - Snoop Dogg
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guest_
· 5 years ago
The message: “there’s only one way to find out” is telling. There is only one way to find out- to ask. If using hypotheticals is mean- then he’s mean too. He didn’t say he wanted to dance- he asked what she might say if he asked, and she said the only way he would know is to ask. It’s a double lesson. Come at a lady correct. “I.... might like you” “I think I like you” “I might want to take you out...” most people don’t want to hear that. They want you to know what you want and say it, go after it. It’s ok to be nervous, but it’s one thing to be decisive and bumble a bit vs being wishy washy or uncommunicative. The second lesson is that rejection happens, it’s part of life and you can live through it. If you ask if I might be hungry- to answer hypothetically I might be. If you ask if I am hungry- I am or I am not. Going forward he should take the advice and just ask straight forward.
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bethorien
· 5 years ago
The whole "what might you say" thing is an old and fairly commonly used thing. You're missing the entire point of the way it's worded. It has a specific tone and it's meant to be very implication-y rather than straight forward. Implication and not so veiled messages are a mainstay of human interaction and complexity. Replying like she did is returning the implication and purposefully giving the wrong idea. She knew she was leading him along and getting his hopes up and that's just being an asshat who needs to grow there fuck up
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guest_
· 5 years ago
People use implication. But people also have different styles of communication. As the person who “wants” a thing you take the burden of communicating in a way that gets you what you want. So I disagree in that OP states they were nervous, and their entire post suggests they lack the ability to communicate implication. A sly or confident “what would you do....” can work. But as said- they aren’t confident. Even if you couldn’t read the timidness of falseness- the very line opens the door for the obvious rebuttals. To communication- these rebuttals can be a type of flirting. A way for someone who knows who they are to test how a person deals with them and with adversity. Do they have the wit, humor, strength of ego, and drive to carry on the game and turn rejection to banter that opens the door, do they get defensive and mean due to fragile ego, do they slink away? Those last two are indicative of a person who isn’t compatible with a fiesty, strong, or sarcastic personality in general.
