It took courage, and she was unkind. But don’t ask. Except where you know the woman well- don’t ask why. It’s not important. If you follow the basic rules 90% of people respond to- you keep good hygiene and are somewhat groomed, you have a basic social competency, etc- the only reasons are specific to her. Not all women want the same thing. Some like shy guys, other confident; muscles/skinny, tall/short- it could be a million things even as simple as she likes a guy with a different style or aesthetic, and many times you can’t easily or or all change those things, and you certainly can’t be what every woman on earth wants. Be you, the best you that you can. Don’t try and be who she wants you to- become who you want to be and people attracted to that will naturally accept you.
I've seen a lot of these posts lately and you have to think about bias in this situation. I recently got asked out by a friend and I politely declined and he repeatedly harassed me, asked again, called me names, and publicly embarrassed me. It got to the point where I was not polite anymore because I was tired of this treatment and I can 1000% guarantee he would use this meme to describe the situation.
I know nothing about that sort of situation, but I'm constantly skeptical of memes, especially when it comes to relationships.
How does the saying go? There are two sides to every story, and the truth can be found somewhere in the middle?
A polite way is "I don't feel comfortable dating someone who I'm not sexually/emotionally attracted to in some way."
How does the saying go? There are two sides to every story, and the truth can be found somewhere in the middle?