I once heard that when choosing your daughter’s name, put the word ‘Dr.’ in front of it. If it sounds ridiculous - Dr. Dolly, Dr. Ambrosia, etc. - then you’ve picked the wrong name.
It should. I think the point of the advice is that people tend to get ‘overly inventive’ with girls names rather than boys names, which can put girls at a disadvantage in some careers. When looking for an attorney, would you pick the one named Helen Smith or the one named Petunia Smith? My guess is that most people would pick Helen.
This can be true, although I'd most likely pick them based on pricing etc in the end. But Helen would probably be my first call if basing off names alone. Spelling is important, too, mind you.
Yeah I think that's unfortunate (to base your child's name on that) because Helens will have their target audience and so will Petunias. I would rather go to Petunia, while someone else would go to Helen. Everybody has their tribe. We don't all have to be the same.
I would hate to change my last names, I'm glad it's not a tradition here. Tho I guess that if you grew up with that concept it's not so weird. But yeah, it's a no from me
And do men do that?
Here the children get the first surname of each parent, and traditionally the fathers surname was first, but they changed the law some years ago and you can chose the order, but men are yet adamant on having their surname first
I have a friend from Egypt, and I believe how it worked for them was, the woman would keep her last name, but the children would have the last name of the father
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@celia it's not common, and not something a lot of women would necessarily demand, but it's something men can do. And I imagine it will become more common in the future. I'm not saying I'd require him to take my name, just that, if sharing a name was that important to him, we'd either have to settle on a hyphen, or he'd have to be content with changing his name. I don't personally really see how anyone can reasonably demand someone else change their identity for them if they aren't willing to do the same
@diyrogue Spain :)
@xvarnah I see. I totally agree with you, and an hypen could be a good solution if you want a common surname, and, as you said; if they would never do it, how can you demand it from someone else?
I would feel like I'm losing part of who I am
Here the children get the first surname of each parent, and traditionally the fathers surname was first, but they changed the law some years ago and you can chose the order, but men are yet adamant on having their surname first
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@celia it's not common, and not something a lot of women would necessarily demand, but it's something men can do. And I imagine it will become more common in the future. I'm not saying I'd require him to take my name, just that, if sharing a name was that important to him, we'd either have to settle on a hyphen, or he'd have to be content with changing his name. I don't personally really see how anyone can reasonably demand someone else change their identity for them if they aren't willing to do the same
@xvarnah I see. I totally agree with you, and an hypen could be a good solution if you want a common surname, and, as you said; if they would never do it, how can you demand it from someone else?
I would feel like I'm losing part of who I am