Happened to me too, recently. My bf's dad is an emotionally abusive asshole so my bf started crying in front of me because of a childhood memory.
There's a lot of stigma between guys about crying and how "unmanly" it is and how women will leave you if you cry in front of them and yada yada. But I never felt like crying made him any less manly. In fact I felt glad that he trusts me enough to open up about this kind of stuff. So yeah, this goes to all men out there, it's not wrong to cry if you fell overwhelmed by emotions. It happens to us all sometimes. It won't make you any less attractive or manly. In fact as a woman I find this whole manliness cult kinda stupid, just be yourself, who cares if you can grow a beard or lift a truck. I find men who constantly need to prove to everyone how strong and manly they are kinda pathetic, in truth. But anyway back to the crying thing. Don't keep all that pressure in, cry if you need to. There's a reason why the suicide number is higher for men.
There was no need to say you think men who act strong and manly are pathetic, you can't judge their motivation and expression as much as you can't an emotional man. Just love and acceptance all round x
I get what both of you are saying, but I'm okay with what she said. We need to erase the stigma against men showing emotion and one of the best ways to do that is by women showing men that holding everything back isn't the cool thing to do anymore. Sometimes a shock to the system is good
@guest Sorry if I offended anyone. I never had any intention to imply that I want people to change, as I said in the previous comment, just be yourself. But imo men who need to prove to everyone how manly they are are just a symptom of the system, of the stigma I was talking about. If we erase that, men will no longer feel the need to do this and know they are accepted for who they are.
Not to mention that in my experience, men who act like that are usually a teensy bit sexist. It's logical since they value masculinity and thus don't value femininity. You know, like those hilarious pick up artists who worship the Alpha cult and live in an echo chamber consisting of men telling each other how they think women think. Roosh V (one of the most famous pick up artists) made a video some time ago about how he got into baking. And he had to follow it by saying "But I'm not a woman, baking is like science, I'm a bread scientist." That's what I meant by pathetic. Not, like, regular show offs.
There's a lot of stigma between guys about crying and how "unmanly" it is and how women will leave you if you cry in front of them and yada yada. But I never felt like crying made him any less manly. In fact I felt glad that he trusts me enough to open up about this kind of stuff. So yeah, this goes to all men out there, it's not wrong to cry if you fell overwhelmed by emotions. It happens to us all sometimes. It won't make you any less attractive or manly. In fact as a woman I find this whole manliness cult kinda stupid, just be yourself, who cares if you can grow a beard or lift a truck. I find men who constantly need to prove to everyone how strong and manly they are kinda pathetic, in truth. But anyway back to the crying thing. Don't keep all that pressure in, cry if you need to. There's a reason why the suicide number is higher for men.
Not to mention that in my experience, men who act like that are usually a teensy bit sexist. It's logical since they value masculinity and thus don't value femininity. You know, like those hilarious pick up artists who worship the Alpha cult and live in an echo chamber consisting of men telling each other how they think women think. Roosh V (one of the most famous pick up artists) made a video some time ago about how he got into baking. And he had to follow it by saying "But I'm not a woman, baking is like science, I'm a bread scientist." That's what I meant by pathetic. Not, like, regular show offs.