As a guy who doesn't see any morality issues with going after a girl who is in a relationship, yet doesn't consider myself as the fuckboy-douche type (although I'm guessing some of you wont agree), it heavily depends on the girl.
If I'm chatting up a girl and she drops "I have a boyfriend" in the conversation, then Ill take the hint and move on.
However I've been with girls who wouln't mention shit when you first hit on them, at a later point I would learn she had a boyfriend but she still keeps behaving with me as if she doesn't have one and flirting and shit, well in those cases I'll just ignore the fact that she has a boyfriend. If she is willing to cheat, i'd rather she cheat with me.
Well for me the piece of shit is the girl who is willing to cheat on her boyfriend. The fact that it happens with me is irrelevant, if she was gonna cheat she could do it with anyone else.
When I'm in a relationship I am 100% faithfull.
If I chat up a girl and she says she has a boyfriend I move on.
If a girl fails to let me know, or lets me know, but then keeps the flirting going, and ends up accepting to go out or stuff like that and then cheats on her boyfriend, I fail to see what I did wrong really. I'm not responsible for keeping her faithful.
Sure I could be the good guy who then does all he can to keep her from straying, but really.... why would I do that ? Chances are she would cheat with someone else (that is really I feel the only debatable point of my logic). It's her role to be faithful, just as it is MY role to be faithful when I'm in a relationship.
I'm genuinely open to debate about this, I've met people who agree with me, people who disagree (and I respect that), but I'm yet to find someone who can pinpoint where my logic is wrong.
You are helping with something that hurts another person
The one with the partner is more guilty, but you knew it and you didn't care about being part of something that would hurt someone
I'm not saying that you are a bad person, but that's my view on it
I can't say that I would never do it, because i don't know, but right now if i know that a guy has a gf and tries to hit on me I reject him instantly
Not offence, but that sounds like a lazy excuse hahaha
However, it's in our genes to feel empathetic as much as to look for ourselves
So you can choose, the human being is not inherently good or bad, there's -thankfully- a lot of grey
Either way, it's your life and I have no say in what you do, it's just my point of view
Btw, using trans people like that, yikes
If I'm chatting up a girl and she drops "I have a boyfriend" in the conversation, then Ill take the hint and move on.
However I've been with girls who wouln't mention shit when you first hit on them, at a later point I would learn she had a boyfriend but she still keeps behaving with me as if she doesn't have one and flirting and shit, well in those cases I'll just ignore the fact that she has a boyfriend. If she is willing to cheat, i'd rather she cheat with me.
When I'm in a relationship I am 100% faithfull.
If I chat up a girl and she says she has a boyfriend I move on.
If a girl fails to let me know, or lets me know, but then keeps the flirting going, and ends up accepting to go out or stuff like that and then cheats on her boyfriend, I fail to see what I did wrong really. I'm not responsible for keeping her faithful.
Sure I could be the good guy who then does all he can to keep her from straying, but really.... why would I do that ? Chances are she would cheat with someone else (that is really I feel the only debatable point of my logic). It's her role to be faithful, just as it is MY role to be faithful when I'm in a relationship.
The one with the partner is more guilty, but you knew it and you didn't care about being part of something that would hurt someone
I'm not saying that you are a bad person, but that's my view on it
I can't say that I would never do it, because i don't know, but right now if i know that a guy has a gf and tries to hit on me I reject him instantly
However, it's in our genes to feel empathetic as much as to look for ourselves
So you can choose, the human being is not inherently good or bad, there's -thankfully- a lot of grey
Either way, it's your life and I have no say in what you do, it's just my point of view