I have a legit issue with connecting with someone in a sentimental way. I'm bad with words and I find cards too generalized. When my fiance's friend died of cancer recently, I didnt know what to say. So I did all the chores, washes his laundry, bought his favorite snacks and drinks, and made sure I was within arms reach at all times.
I let my actions speak for me and i think he understood because he didnt look so depressed
I feel like many people falsely believe you need to say something in moments like these. However, I think that sometimes the silence is more powerful and more helpful. Comments like "I'm sorry," "It will get better," or "You'll get through this" just really piss me off when I'm in mourning. But silence is like telling me "this is too much for words" and I feel more solidarity.
I let my actions speak for me and i think he understood because he didnt look so depressed