I'm generally supportive of people coming out with non-traditional sexual orientations because I don't want people to think they're not accepted, but yeah this whole "I can't sleep with someone unless I have an emotional bond with them", isn't that almost everyone? Why would there need to be a sexuality for that? I'd really like someone who knows more about this topic than I do to explain, because if it really is a thing, I guess I'm a demisexual.
Demisexual person here. For me, it’s more than just “I won’t have sex until I’m close with someone”. I actually don’t experience any physical attraction to anybody until a very deep bond has formed. I thought I was just plain old asexual for a while but became physically attracted to a past boyfriend after being in the relationship for about 6 months. But even then (and sorta now) the idea of having sex repulses me. This being said, if someone asks my sexuality, I say straight, because I am. Telling someone you’re demi sexual just seems like a cry for attention.
I think I understand this because how sexually attracted I am to a person shifts depending on how emotionally close I am to the person at that time. Even if i go a couple days without being emotionally involved with someone (even if it’s someone I’m in love with) I know it makes logical sense to want to have sex and be attracted to the person but I cant do it. I’ll need to at least spend some time with him before I can become comfortable with the idea of sex with him repeat x infinity
So if yoi form a deep connection with someone of the same sex will you let them fuck you? Bcuz if yes then ok i kind of see its something a little beyond just "good morals," but if no then you just have "good morals" and should be left at that without making this BS orientations.
I didn’t make up a bullshit orientation or even say this was what I was I said it makes sense. Do you need to meet certain emotional levels with your boy/girl friend before you’re able to have sex? Does your ability to have sex with them waver with a change of that emotional connection? Do you constantly have to fight with your significant other because they think you’re making it up when you say “I find it very hard to have sex because we haven’t even had a proper conversation today”? It’s worse when you’re married. It doesn’t have anything to do with physical attraction etc. while i am physically attracted if my boyfriend even does something for example treats someone else poorly I might be never able to regain a sexual attraction to him even if I am able to fix the relationship and move past the personality dealbreaker. I might love him a lot but the thought of having sex with him feels, just disgusting. I don’t know about you but for me to know I’m not making this up in my head..
..and that there are other people who feel similiarly makes me feel less broken and like it’s just something some people feel. I hope I can get over it some day. I don’t think of it as special, you have no idea how it makes relationships so difficult because I constantly feel the need to replenish an emotional bond that isn’t really decreasing by much anyways but I know if I don’t it’ll eventually fuck things up - or should I say not fuck haha
And to answer your question I rarely form emotional connections with people and until now have only formed them with boyfriends who I, yes, would have sex with but that doesn’t change my sexual preference so if I’m not attracted to the same sex that doesn’t change just because I formed an emotional bond - just like how you won’t sleep with someone who is the same sex as you just because he/she was attractive as hell.
And to answer your question I rarely form emotional connections with people and until now have only formed them with boyfriends who I, yes, would have sex with but that doesn’t change my sexual preference so if I’m not attracted to the same sex that doesn’t change just because I formed an emotional bond - just like how you won’t sleep with someone who is the same sex as you just because he/she was attractive as hell.