The INCEL’s of the world will say otherwise- but for the most part women just want you to be yourself. Not every particular woman will be attracted to every man’s version of themselves- and “be yourself” doesn’t mean be an animal- but more like “yourself in a social context...” So, many men (and women) often without realizing it will treat a person they are trying to court very different from how they treat everyone else. Generally it stands out. Generally women who have experience being picked up on also know certain patterns and word tracks. So not surprisingly- most women don’t want to be worshipped or doted over, or lusted after like that- especially by someone who hasn’t gotten to know them enough to genuinely do so from affection. If you treat most women like you would others- and that woman has a personality like yours- she will most likely enjoy interacting with you as opposed to being creeped out or put off by seemingly false or odd behavior.
YES. My best friend was that annoying dumbass I couldn't stand for 3 months before we had to work on a project. There, he was invested in the project and started acting more like himself. That's when I noticed he was actually trying to get me to become his girlfriend and unconsciously turned himself into a really bland and uninteresting ass, while he is in fact a great guy. We became friends really quickly when I found a way to let him know I wasn't interested and he dropped the act completely. We don't talk to each other anymore after a friendship of 5 years but damn I'm so glad we had this one assignment.
I’m glad you were able to meet the real him and find a good friend. Sorry to hear you fell out of touch (assuming that was it and not something more heinous.) I know how that goes. Life is strange though and we sometimes find old faces back in our lives decades later so who knows? Guys just sometimes try too hard. Often it’s the “nice” guys who are actually doing some level of this and it can strip an interesting person that someone might want to date down to a bland and generic or even cringey charicature.
Thanks. I was really sad at the moment but now I made my peace with it. He changed a lot of my views and being friends with him made me grow as a person, so in that way he's still with me. Even though I'd like for things to be better, I think of him often and hope he's happy but don't vividly miss him and I'm not bitter.
And yes he is nice but turned into a dork back then. The stress of wanting to impress had a bad effect.
And yes he is nice but turned into a dork back then. The stress of wanting to impress had a bad effect.