@cakelover You‘re a man-toaster then
@grimreaper Well, you will be one day so you better buy it lol
@dr_richard_ew That‘s why you should read the book! :D
@the_grinch Hmm. We don‘t know that for sure
Lol. Thank you @aviva. I don’t know that there are kids in the future. It’s certainly not in the plan- but there are plans and there is life- and the latter usually works out how it pleases regardless of plans- so who knows.
@Aviva- paradoxical. If you expect the unexpected it is no longer unexplpected because you expected it- so it is just the expected. In which case it might be prudent to make sure one is prepared if one expects someothing. So we don’t expect to be expecting except for if the unexpected happens- So my partner and I have discussed our expectations of each assuming certain obligations to prevent procreation by precluding insemination and thus preempting propagation.
@aviva- lol. I felt like playing with words. It might just be best that when my time comes- I live in the memories of those who knew me, and that when they go, I go too. I hope for a future where people don’t need or want people like me around. That would be nice- but it’s probably a long way off. But there’s always someone who comes along with something to say, so I suspect the future will be alright without me.
@guest_ Ok. Are you unhappy? That sounded like you don‘t desire life anymore. There‘s only one you. And you‘re an amazing member of our FS family. It may not sound like much, but your insight is always well thought out and long. I wish I could do that. I doubt that it‘ll all be alright.
P.S: Apologies for my late response
@aviva- no worries on the reply. And thank you for your kind words. I appreciate them, honestly and truly and to me they are anything but “not much.” I’m rather happy. Work is work- but it’s certainly not the worst job one could have when all things are considered- and life is good although we always could ask for more, I can’t say there’s much that would drastically improve mine in a meaningful way, just trinkets and toys and time; there’s always more right? But I’m very happy. I have just reconciled my death long ago. I don’t want to die, I enjoy life. I will die though- and when I do I don’t expect to be remembered for generations nor do I think I’d want to be. In life- we touch everyone we encounter in some way, and through them we touch everyone they touch and so on. A huge wave will still leave little ripples by the time its traveled a thousand miles. Like- every word we use just about was first spoken by someone else. Or some version of it. Those words change over time but...
... each word in this sentence wouldn’t ecist if some version hadn’t have been used long ago by someone who’s name we may likely never know. But someone invented the genisis of the word someone. Someone else changed it and on and on. So every little thing we do has a great possibility of outliving us. It isn’t upsetting to me that I could hopefully put good into the world and be forgotten for it. The good lives on. That’s fine. All people die, many try for immortality through legacy and that isn’t the way it’s supposed to work. We just do our best and what happens after we don’t have much say for. I see the way many are remembered. Often all that is left are myths and symbolism- they may be coopted as champions of a cause they never would have supported or morphed by political convenience into whatever image is needed. It’s better to be remembered for who you really were by those who you impacted, and then fade to obscurity once they are gone in my opinion. Leaving room for the next...
... wave to tel theornown stories and make their own mark. I don’t want to be a caricature of who I was or have all the bad parts snipped away to create an image of some perfect human. I live, I do what I think is good into the world, I will pass, and if I did my job while here I will leave it a little better than I found it, leave tools and ways for a new group to decide what values they want to follow as opposed to what values they were told were sacred. That’s my long winded answer. Lol. But all is well. Although perhaps part of me would have liked kids of my own. I’ve raised others kids but was young and didn’t do as well as I should have. I think I’d be better now- but I’m also selfish. Lol. I don’t want to give up my luxuries for the responsibilities and obligations of children- so there is some mixed emotions there. That part of you thaybisnt sure of you want a child because you’re programmed to or because you really do. They’re precious- but it’s nice to be able to clock out.
@guest_ Sounds like your job sucks the life out of you and you‘re slowly losing hope that things could positively change. And yes, there‘s more. I also know that one day I won‘t be here anymore but I want to make the best out of life before then. You don‘t get to decide if you want to be remembered or not, you just are. But I trust that you‘ll be remembered if you like it or not lol. I get where you‘re coming from but if important stories of people faded out, how is it going to mold the minds of others who actually care? It‘s possible that those who made all the stuff you mentioned didn‘t even know what popularity, etc. was. If they did, it is possible they tried but did not succeed. Saving things on scrolls, etc. was more difficult than just uploading a video about yourself and being famous overnight. You can choose how you want to be remembered though.
@guest_ If you did your best to raise a kid and they became something else, it‘s their fault and not yours. But yes, we are all human. Kids are usually annoying when they are young, but they can be a massive blessing when they get older. Since you don‘t want kids, do you know who‘ll take care of everything when your S.O. and you get really really old and can‘t work anymore? I‘m not trying to pressure you into having kids lol. I‘m just asking :)
Lol. @aviva- work is just work. It’s why it’s called work and not “happy fun time.” I work as a means to live my life as opposed to living to work, so I don’t much care what I’m doing so long as it pays well and isn’t completely morally decrepit. But in the grand scheme of things my work isn’t that bad. I just have a lot of things to keep track of, but having had the chance to be financially stable and not work- that gets boring too. So I know that if I’m working I’d usually rather be playing and if I could play whenever I wanted I’d get bored- so this is a happy enough balance.
Stories are important, and I’m certainly not saying we should erase history or forget people. Just that I don’t much care what happens after I’m gone, I just hope that the people alive then have good lives and are happy. The rest is just details. As for when we get old- who knows? I’ll probably work until I am completely physically incapacitated- if not I’ll hope my retirement savings etc. are enough and I’m not stuck eating cat food. I’ve never had a safety net of knowing that there was someone who could take care of me. I have maybe 5(?) living family members, and I take care of 3 financially and the other 2 often need money or help in other ways. The partner does joke sometimes that we should have like 10 kids for retirement. If they seriously said they wanted a baby tomorrow I’d probably help make it without a thought- but... well... like work. There’s always a plus and a minus so things tend to work out fine either way.
@guest_ I know that work does not neccessarily have to be fun. I was just curious if it sucked the life out of you. It may not be fun, but it can still be happy. Sounds like you got everything planned out. What if something unexpected happened? Like you being promoted, etc.
What if you are physically incapacitated and your savings aren‘t enough? How come you are so few in your family?(if it‘s ok to ask). You make “making babies“ sound like baking a cake or something lol.
Woah, I‘m asking so many questions ^^‘
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@xvarnah(I‘m tagging you because Jason finds it funny when I drag you to posts that don‘t apply to you lol).
I identify as a toaster
My pronouns are "Breville", "four-slice", and "done on one-side"
@grimreaper Well, you will be one day so you better buy it lol
@dr_richard_ew That‘s why you should read the book! :D
@the_grinch Hmm. We don‘t know that for sure
I do believe I'm not pregnant. I do have a small tummy, but that's just fat
@guest_ So you‘ll get the book? lol. Expect the unexpected
P.S: Apologies for my late response
What if you are physically incapacitated and your savings aren‘t enough? How come you are so few in your family?(if it‘s ok to ask). You make “making babies“ sound like baking a cake or something lol.
Woah, I‘m asking so many questions ^^‘